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Bare Naked Moms

ByMilano Buckley & Alanna Leavell
19 episodes

Podcast Summary

As a parent, do you ever feel bare and naked? Totally unsure of what’s right or wrong, loaded up with experts’ tips and tricks yet still feeling lost, misunderstood, and (worst of all) alone? We do. Let’s talk.We’re Milano Buckley and Alanna Leavell, two moms of three and hosts of Bare Naked Moms—a weekly tell-it-like-it-is parenting roundtable of celebs, influencers, experts, and bold everyday carpoolers like us, taking on the messy, uncomfortable moments of modern family life that usually lie between the lines or out of bounds, but always leave us feeling like defenseless emperors without clothes.We believe that no matter how high-flying you are, at one point or another, you will get stuck in some patch of thorny, tick-infested parenting weeds. Whether you were born rich or poor, whether you had terrific parents or terrible parents, whether you know a lot or a little, whether everyone knows you or no one knows you, whether you’re black or white or green or red, whether you’re married to a woman or a man, whether you identify as He, She, or Furry…parenting doesn’t give a sh*t. It will come for you. And take all your clothes. Whether they come from Gucci, Walmart, or the hands of sheep-sheering monks. In each episode, we’ll roll up our sleeves for an honest, respectful rumble in which sticky stories and questions are swapped. Through that brave exchange, our hope is that everyone gains some relief and clarity—on how to find more peace, joy, connection, and humor in your lives as parents.

#1

Navigating Menopause as a Busy Mom (Gillian Goddard, MD)

Not everyone affected by it is a mother, but all mothers are affected by it: Menopause. What’s more bare and naked than pulling back the curtain on this inevitable, charged event that’s both personal and universal—and usually takes hold of moms right when their children are undergoing their own huge hormonal shifts (a.k.a Puberty)? After all, if Mama’s not happy, nobody’s happy! In this week’s episode, Alanna and Milano sit down with endocrinologist and mom of four Dr. Gillian Goddard. Also the author of “Hot Flash” from ParentData and the upcoming book The Hormone Loop, Gillian breaks it all down for us: what’s happening, when it’s happening, who we should turn to for guidance, and what we can do to soften the landing. Together, we form a menopause framework and plan, so it doesn’t disrupt our own wellness, or the balance of our family ecosystems.In This Episode:👉 Defining and redefining menopause: the big picture and the smaller pictures. 👉 Clarifying confusion and misinformation from social media soundbites. 👉 A plan of attack: symptoms to look for and how to treat them.👉 Assembling the right health team for this chapter of motherhood.============Follow us: @barenakedmomsFollow Gillian: @gillianmgoddardRead: Gillian’s articles

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#2

Faith and Parenting (Ainsley Earhardt)

Conventional wisdom tells us to keep our politics and religion to ourselves. But Ainsley Earhardt, Co-host of Fox and Friends, bestselling author, and single mother to nine-year-old Hayden, couldn’t be more bare and naked—and public—about both. In this week’s episode, Ainsley walks us through her journey with God and how faith has helped her in work, love, life, and parenting. She also opens up about the pros and cons of her transparency and some of the consequences that it has had in her life as a mom.In This Episode:👉 The power of faith, judgment, and curiosity. 👉 The danger of certainty.👉 Fitting faith into modern family life. 👉 Are all faiths created equal?==================Follow us: @barenakedmomsFollow Ainsley: @foxandfriends and foxandfriends.comRead: Ainsley’s books

2025-05-2129mins
#3

A Pacific Palisades Mom on Navigating Crisis, Survival, Grief, and Recovery

What if you and your children found yourselves in the middle of a disaster that was captivating the nation? How would you overcome your own despair to support your kids if their home–and their entire community–burned to the ground? Mom-of-two Emily Debevoise faced those questions when she and her husband lost their home in the Palisades Fire this past January. In this week’s episode, Alanna and Milano talk with an everyday mom in the midst of rebuilding her family’s lives after evacuating their beloved neighborhood with nothing but a few garbage bags full of stuff. She shares how she’s finding ways (both big and small) to be there for her 14-year-old daughter and 11-year-old son and how she sees them processing their trauma differently. Emily also opens up about the acts of kindness that are helping them to move forward and what we should all know should we ever face a similar crisis–or have a loved one in crisis.In This Episode:👉 How siblings may process crisis differently 👉 Small acts that make all the difference to kids in crisis👉 What to grab for the kids if you have a few minutes to evacuate your home 👉 How to reach out if a family you know is in crisis Follow us: @barenakedmoms

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#4

Milano’s Story, Continued: The Search for Her Dad [Bonus Episode]

Bare Naked Moms co-host Milano Buckley had a wild and woolly childhood as the daughter of a mother who suffered from severe mental illness. She only survived thanks to a motley crew of amazing characters who stepped up and took her in–from a family who lived around the corner to her third grade teacher–but her own father was never around. In this bonus episode, Alanna and Milano try to unravel the mystery of who Milano’s father is. As she and her mentally-ill mom struggled to find their way through the world, where was Milano’s dad, what steps did she take to find him, and how has she come much closer to solving the mystery once and for all? In This Episode:👉 What Milano’s mom told her about her dad👉 Her efforts to reach out to him over the years👉 What she now knows thanks to 23andMe👉 Her next step towards solving the mystery Follow us: @barenakedmoms

2025-05-1323mins
#5

How to Raise Resilient Kids (Tovah Klein)

Do you ever worry that your kids have it too good to be resilient? Do you try to protect them from hard stuff because you want them to be happy? Do you wonder how some kids who experience trauma end up being just fine, while others with placid, uneventful childhoods are hot messes? As parents, it’s so hard to know when to protect our kids from pain or anxiety and when to let them experience it.In this week’s episode, Alanna and Milano have a fascinating discussion with childhood development expert Dr. Tovah Klein about the importance of not shielding our kids from their mistakes, our mistakes, or the unsavory feelings and events of everyday life. Dr. Klein shares what she’s observed in her 30 years as Director of the Barnard College Center for Toddler Development and what she outlines in her recently published bestseller, Raising Resilience: How to Help Our Children Thrive in Times of Uncertainty: that the key ingredient of success in a child (and human) is resilience—knowing that we can feel and do and see hard things and ultimately be OK. In This Episode:👉 How to protect kids without paralyzing them 👉 The importance of giving children the freedom to fall 👉 Parents as containers and anchors👉 How to talk to our kids about scary things👉 Why “potential” and perfection are nice ideas that totally backfire=================Buy Tovah Klein’s book hereFollow Tovah: @tovahkleinFollow us: @barenakedmoms

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#6

Children’s Author on the Value of Boredom, Curiosity & Racial Representation (Chris Van Dusen)

What does the bestselling author-illustrator of The Circus Ship, Learning to Ski with Mr. Magee, Randy Riley’s Really Big Hit and If I Built a House know about childhood and parenting? A lot, it turns out! For one, that kids should not be talked down to—in literature or in life—because they’re so much smarter than we give them credit for. And that kids make great writing collaborators because their brains and imaginations are far less cluttered than ours. In this week’s episode, kid lit powerhouse Chris Van Dusen shares wisdom from his own childhood and parenting his two sons—as well as the humbling realization that there was something important he was falling short of as a storyteller: representing and including people of all cultures and backgrounds. In This Episode:👉 Nurturing boredom and curiosity in kids👉 Creating stories that appeal to all ages and minds 👉 Children’s ability to handle darkness👉 The costs and benefits of DEI in stories👉 Reinventing yourself at any age or professional chapter=====================Learn more about Chris: Chris’s books hereFollow Chris: @chrisvandusenbooksFollow us: @barenakedmoms

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#7

NBC’s Vicky Nguyen on Her Journey from Refugee to Reporter and Mom of Three

Milano and Alanna welcome NBC News anchor and correspondent Vicky Nguyen to talk about her recently published memoir Boat Baby. The New York Times bestseller chronicles her family’s escape from communist Vietnam to America, the rollercoaster ride of growing up with immigrant parents, and her experiences as a mother of three daughters. How is Vicky following her parents’ lead as a mom, and what is she handling differently? For one, she’s an only child who decided to have three kids. Her parents’ hard work and love of travel are qualities that she admires and emulates. The open communication that she enjoys with her own daughters, though, is not something she experienced growing up.In This Episode:👉 The difference between “woman with children” and “mother”👉 An immigrant family’s survival and commitment to the American Dream👉 Different generations and cultures living together under one roof 👉 Grandparents as caretakers for their grandchildren👉 It takes a village: a working mother’s ecosystemBuy Boat Baby hereFollow Vicky: @vickynguyentvFollow us: @barenakedmoms

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#8

Calm Parenting Podcast’s Kirk Martin on How to Parent Strong-Willed Kids

Have a child who lacks motivation, talks back, lies and steals, and fights you over everything? Given the chance, strong-willed kids would suck the calm and patient right out of Mother Theresa, let alone their actual mother. In this week’s episode, Calm Parenting Podcast host Kirk Martin teaches Alanna and Milano the power of reframing. Shifting the way we think and act with our strong-willed kids—and examining what we as parents bring to the dynamic—can turn the job of parenting them from burden to blessing. He shares brilliantly simple and practical reframing techniques that establish boundaries and expectations without damaging the all-important parent-child connection.In This Episode:👉 How the brains of strong-willed kids are wired.👉 Helping strong-willed kids create new neural pathways and behavioral patterns. 👉 Understanding the role parents can play in struggles with strong-willed kids.👉 The power of language and tone with strong-willed kids. 👉 Tips for navigating strong-willed kids without losing your cool or connection.Links:Learn more about Kirk here.Listen to Kirk’s podcast.Follow Kirk: @calmparentingpodcastFollow us: @barenakedmoms

2025-04-1641mins

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#9

Puberty Expert Vanessa Kroll Bennett on How We Should Think and Talk About Modern Puberty

Did you know the new average age for girls to begin puberty is 9?! Or that if you don’t talk to your kids about porn by the age of 12, it might be too late? In this week’s episode, Alanna and Milano are joined by puberty expert Vanessa Kroll Bennett, co-host of the chart-topping podcast This is So Awkward and co-author of the newly released book by the same title. Vanessa, who is known for flipping puberty positive, level sets our expectations of what we should be talking about with our kids, the ages we should be having these conversations and how they should sound (spoiler alert: it’s not a five-hour kumbaya sesh). Vanessa also helps us understand how different puberty is for kids today than it was for us—and how important it is, because of that, to not project our experience onto theirs.In This Episode:👉 Understanding how modern puberty is different from our puberty.👉 Knowing the conversations you must have with your kids—and when/how to have them.👉 Practical tips for removing the “icky” and “tricky” from puberty talks and moments.=============Learn more about Vanessa here.Listen to Vanessa’s podcast.Follow Vanessa: @less.awkwardFollow us: @barenakedmoms

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#10

Actress Jordana Brewster on Humility, Perseverance, and the Importance of Feeling Uncomfortable

When actress Jordana Brewster rocketed to fame in The Fast and the Furious franchise in her 20s, she says she second-guessed every move she made. Over the years, as she continued to land major roles in movies and on TV, she became a mom to two sons, and these days, she finally knows what she values – as a person and a parent. On the show, Jordana opens up about her Mom wins and woes: unexpected insecurities that bubbled up from having kids through surrogacy, pushing back on today’s insane expectations for kids to pick a lane early on and the freedom that comes from ditching perfection.Jordana is currently starring in the psychological thriller Cellar Door as a woman who struggles with infertility. In This Episode:Navigating modern pressures for kids to find their passion early on. Negotiating insecurities that can emerge after becoming a parent through surrogacy. Processing failure. Please follow us: @barenakedmomsFollow Jordana: @jordanabrewster

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#11

Big Time Adulting’s Caitlin Murray on Boozing, Becoming Famous and the Serious Business of Being Funny

Big Time Adulting’s Caitlin Murray is the Nora Ephron slash Larry David of today’s mom culture. The not-to-be-messed-with mom of three (whose oldest is a cancer survivor) points out the nonsense in everything from Daylight Savings to palate expanders. The only thing missing from her side-splitting insights on the absurdities of modern mom life are flying f*cks. In addition to her ninja kitchen dances and daily pearls of witty wisdom on Instagram, Caitlin recently started a weekly newsletter called Soul Snacks. And she’s currently writing her first book. On the show, she opens up about her evolving relationship with alcohol and being sober-curious these days. We get into the slippery slopes of tween girl fashion. She talks about how she’s navigating her newfound fame and how having a child who survived cancer changed everything about her as a mom.In This Episode:Our relationships with alcohol and being sober curiousDrawing boundaries around tween girl fashion Being a normal mom who suddenly becomes super famous What good days and bad days look like after your child has survived cancerPlease follow us: @barenakedmomsFollow Caitlin on Big Time Adulting: @bigtimeadulting Check out her Soul Snacks newsletter:

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#12

Auctioneer Lydia Fenet on Building Confidence in Moms & Kids

Lydia Fenet is one of the world’s top auctioneers, having raised over one billion dollars for charity organizations. Her success is fueled by an abundance of confidence. She joins us to talk about how she’s now trying to build confidence in her three kids and how she maintains her confidence as a mom despite all the demands of her career. Lydia is the author of two bestselling books, The Most Powerful Woman in the Room is You and Claim Your Confidence, and hosts a podcast. She and her husband are raising their family in New York City. In This Episode:Lydia vs. Mom Guilt How letting kids fail allows them to become confidentPlease follow us: @barenakedmomsFollow Lydia Fenet: @lydiafenet

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#13

Predators Lacrosse Owner Mike McCall on the Runaway Train of Youth Sports

What the hell happened to Youth Sports? What happened to the days of a couple practices a week and one game on the weekends? These days, it feels like sports have become careers for our kids—and full time jobs for us parents to manage those careers. When and how did it get: so serious, so nonstop, so expensive? We get into the nitty gritty with Predators Lacrosse founder, Mike McCall. McCall breaks down the bigger game here—who the players are, and how to know if you’re a winner or a loser in it. In This Episode:How to assess the value of travel sports at every age What the end game is in this bankrupting rat raceHow to think about allocating a family’s resources when it comes to sportsLinks:Please follow us: @barenakedmomsFollow Predators Lacrosse: @predatorslacrosse and

2024-11-1246mins
#14

Raised by Others: Milano’s Story [Bonus Episode]

If you’ve been listening, you may have heard Milano talk a little about her complicated childhood. But in this episode, she takes the mic to tell much more of her story. Born to a mentally ill woman who was living in her car, Milano was raised throughout Manhattan by a motley crew of amazing parent figures and family units—including her biological mom, a family from Ghana from the neighborhood, her third grade teacher, her aunt and uncle, and her former school principal. Somehow she patched together enough love, support and guidance to land at an elite boarding school and university.Cut to: Milano’s now 45 years old and living in a leafy suburb with her husband and three kids. But just when you think the credits of this would-be Hollywood tale might start rolling is when the real nail-biter begins: a whole new survival story of navigating marriage and motherhood without any maps and loads of childhood trauma. In This Episode:The unique charms of Milano’s bipolar mother that inspired everyday people to step in and save Milano. How marriage and parenthood activated Milano’s childhood trauma responses. How Milano’s search for answers in the parenting world led her back to her childhood, her mom, and to Bare Naked Moms. Please follow us: @barenakedmomsMilano wrote about her story on Oprah Daily Milano also told her story on the Big Time Adulting podcast

2024-11-0516mins
#15

Actress Melissa Errico on Parenting Prodigy Kids

Kids on professional paths….How did they get those paths? How much is the parent and how much is the child? How do you know if they’ve got the goods? And, if they do, where do you go from there? In this episode, we talk to Broadway star Melissa Errico and gentle parenting coach Susan Nason about raising “prodigies.” Melissa and her husband, former tennis champ Patrick McEnroe, have three teenage daughters who are serious talents—one in tennis, two in dance. Together, we explore our burning questions about kids who have already picked a lane: Nature vs. nurture? Who’s driving the train? As a parent, when to push and when to retreat? (Sidenote: Patrick makes a cameo!) In This Episode:How to help competitive children navigate high-stake wins and losses.Identifying a child’s talent as just one part of her whole self. The differences between pushing and teaching perseverance. The importance of modeling imperfection and being comfortable with the mess of life. Follow us: @barenakedmomsFollow Melissa on Instagram: @melissa_errico_fairymom Check Melissa out on her website: Follow Susan Nason on her website: www.theparentwhispererny.com Check Susan out in this article: Town & Country Magazine

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#16

Influencers Penn & Kim Holderness on Parenting with ADHD

Are you a parent with ADHD? Or are you married to one? Do you struggle with the executive function that raising kids and running a household requires? We hear so much these days about kids with ADHD, but in our conversation with social media stars and bestselling authors, Penn and Kim Holderness, we get a real sense of what it means to be a parent with ADHD. Penn was diagnosed back in high school, and he and Kim bring their signature honesty, humor and insight to their new book, ADHD Is Awesome: A Guide to (Mostly) Thriving With ADHD, which landed on The New York Times Best Sellers list and has gone on to become one of the most popular books ever published on the subject. We talked to them about: Why managing a family and household is so much more difficult for a parent with ADHD. The challenges of marriage and parenting when your partner has ADHD. How some ADHD traits can really work in your favor as a parent.Joining the conversation is Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, a clinical psychologist, parenting coach, and author of The Tantrum Survival Guide. Dr. Hershberg has shared her wisdom on CNN, The Today Show, and The New York Times. Follow us on Instagram: @barenakedmomsFollow Penn and Kim Holderness: @theholdernessfamilyFollow Dr. Rebecca Hershberg: @rebeccahershbergphd

2024-10-2237mins
#17

TV Journalist Deborah Norville on Resilience, Gratitude and “Pack Power”

Deborah Norville is a TV legend, the longest serving anchor on American television. She’s also the proud mom of two sons and one daughter, and she’s so transparent about what she’s learned along the road of parenting them from infants to adults. We asked her to be our fortune teller mom from the future - to give us pearls of wisdom on the chapter we’re in right now—call it Chapter 5: Chaos Reigns:How she navigated some dark times in her career and in motherhood.What she regrets not doing with her own kids when they were young.Why she thinks gratitude is the best inoculation for struggles with mental health. Deborah Norville was inducted into the Broadcasting & Cable Hall of Fame in 2016. She’s been the host of Inside Edition, TV’s top-rated syndicated newsmagazine, since 1995. She joined the show from CBS News, where she was an anchor and correspondent. Deborah is also the former co-host of NBC’s Today Show and the former host of Deborah Norville Tonight on MSNBC. Deborah is a bestselling author and lecturer. Among her books is Thank You Power: Making the SCIENCE of Gratitude Work for You, which details the connection between gratitude and enhanced cognitive function and energy. 🔗 Follow us on Instagram: @barenakedmoms

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#18

Financial Journalist Andrew Ross Sorkin on Money & Family

We – just like you – have known from print and TV who Andrew Ross Sorkin the financial journalist and storyteller is. But today we get to know who Andrew Ross Sorkin the Dad is:What he wants to replicate from his own childhood and what he hopes to do differentlyHis thoughts on tooth fairy inflation and the challenges of giving his kids an allowance in the age of Apple PayAndrew’s “dad portfolio” – how on the family and homefront he is spending his precious resources of time and money and where he’s seeing highest returns on that investmentThe idea of failure – when he’d feel ok allowing the kids to fail, how insecurity can be healthy but also debilitating, and when or how to know the differenceAndrew Ross Sorkin is a columnist for The New York Times and a co-anchor of CNBC’s Squawk Box. He’s also the founder and editor of DealBook, a financial news service published by The New York Times. He wrote the bestseller Too Big to Fail and co-produced the movie of the same name. He is a co-creator of the Showtime series Billions.Follow us on Instagram: @barenakedmoms

2024-10-0831mins
#19

Welcome to Bare Naked Moms

As a parent, do you ever feel bare and naked? Totally unsure of what’s right or wrong, loaded up with experts’ tips and tricks yet still feeling lost, misunderstood, and (worst of all) alone? We do. Let’s talk.We are Milano Buckley and Alanna Leavell, hosts of Bare Naked Moms, a weekly parenting roundtable where celebs, influencers, experts, and everyday parents discuss the uncomfortable moments of modern family life. Parenting is tough and no matter who you are, you'll get stuck in some thorny, tick-infested parenting weeds. Each week, we have an honest and respectful conversation about sticky stories and questions, hoping to bring relief and clarity on how to find more peace, joy, connection, and humor in your lives as parents.

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