Herd
Get App
Overcome Pornography for Good podcast cover art

Overcome Pornography for Good

BySara Brewer
229 episodes

Podcast Summary

This podcast is for anyone who wants to overcome pornography for good. It will teach you about your brain and how to completely quit a pornography habit, 100% shame-free. If your ideal life doesn't include a porn habit, then this is the show for you. Visit sarabrewer.com to learn more about overcoming pornography for good.

#1

1. Fixing the Root of the Problem: Escape

Join me in today's episode as we talk about one main thing that is keeping you in a pornography habit, and that is your need to escape negative emotion."Pornography has nothing to do with sexual appetites and everything to do with escape"Understanding this will change everything for you.Join me in this episode to learn more!To access my free training, "How to Quit Viewing Pornography Even If You've Tried in the Past" visit to commit to quitting pornography? I would love to be your coach. visit this link to work with me:

2021-01-15•19mins
#2

2. Fixing the Root of the Problem: Over-desire

It today's episode we talk about over-desire. Over-desire is the reason that your urges feel automatic. Over-desire can be un-trained and un-learned. We talk about how in the show.You'll also learn my method for deciding if someone is addicted to pornography or not. I define addiction as a behavior that keeps you from living a normal, functioning life. Many of you call yourselves addicts even though you don't fit this description. I talk about why that might be harmful to you in this episode.As a celebration for the launch of the show, I am giving away one free adult electric scooter and three $50 Amazon gift cards. For details on entering the giveaway, go to sarabrewer.com/podcastlaunchIf you want to access my free training, visit to commit to quitting pornography? I would love to be your coach. visit this link to work with me:

2021-01-25•14mins
#3

3. Fixing the Root of the Problem: Identity

In today's episode we talk about the identity you have taken on as a pornography viewer. Changing this identity is required for quitting pornography for good. In this episode we talk about how to change this identity.We also talk about limiting beliefs that keep you from quitting porn and how to change those beliefs. Some of these limiting beliefs are, "it's too hard to quit porn" "I like it too much" "I'm not strong enough to quit".As a celebration for the launch of the show, I am giving away one free adult electric scooter and three $50 Amazon gift cards. For details on entering the giveaway, go to sarabrewer.com/podcastlaunchIf you want to access my free training, visit to commit to quitting pornography? I would love to be your coach. Visit this link to work with me:

2021-01-25•19mins
#4

4. Stop Fearing Urges

In todays episode we talk about urges. Urges is another word for the feeling of desire. Many of you are afraid of urges because you think that if you feel an urge, you will look at pornography.I want to show you that urges are nothing to be afraid of.And I want to give you new tools to handling urges when you feel them.Join me in today's episode to learn how to stop fearing urges and how to stop giving into urges.Ready to commit to quitting pornography? I would love to be your coach. Visit this link to work with me:

2021-02-03•16mins
#5

5. Shame Spiral

In today's episode we talk about shame spirals.It's important to stay connected to your emotions because your emotions cause your actions. Shame is not a useful emotion when it comes to quitting pornography or other habits. Shame always causes you to hide and avoid. Many people believe that shame is a motivator, when in fact it is the opposite. It is a de-motivater. You can not hate yourself into change.Shame comes from thoughts, not from looking at pornography. Shame comes from thoughts that have the underlying message of, "there is something wrong with me".We find ourselves in shame spirals when we 1. thing something is wrong with me 2. feel shame 3. hide and avoid. 4. view pornography to escape the shame --> and then starting the cycle all over.Join me in todays episode to learn how to combat this shame cycle!Ready to commit to quitting pornography? I would love to be your coach. Visit this link to work with me:

2021-02-10•18mins
#6

6. All or Nothing Thinking

In today's episode we talk about all or nothing mindset. This is one of the most common things I see with my clients.All or nothing mindset looks like, “I already messed up today, so I am not going to try for the rest of the day”, “I can’t start until i’m 100% sure I can do this”, and by counting progress as number of days without pornography instead of counting progress as number of urges processed.In reality, quitting pornography is like learning any new skill. Failure does not keep us from quitting, it teaches us and helps us to become stronger as long as we learn from it.You will love this episode. Ready to commit to quitting pornography? I would love to be your coach. Visit this link to work with me:

2021-02-17•15mins
#7

7. Stop Fighting and Start Surrendering

In today's episode we talk about why surrendering is such an important part of the process to quitting porn.I'm not talking about surrendering as in accepting defeat or accepting that pornography has power over you. I'm not talking about surrendering as in giving up. I'm talking about surrendering to the experience of being a human.We typically want to fight our urges to view pornography. Fighting is a sign of willpower, and willpower is never a long-term solution to quitting any habit, especially pornography. You don't need to fight anymore. Fighting is exhausting.Join me in today's episode to learn how to stop fighting and start surrendering. This will make your journey to quitting pornography much easier.Ready to commit to quitting pornography? I would love to be your coach. Visit this link to work with me:

2021-02-24•19mins
#8

8. Fact vs Story

In today's episode of Overcome Pornography for Good, we talk about the difference between fact and story.This is important, because the facts of your life do not determine your results. The story that you tell yourself determines your results.We dive into what this means specifically in regards to pornography.If you want a different life, you need to tell yourself a different story.I’ll teach you how to do that in this episode. Ready to commit to quitting pornography? I would love to be your coach. Visit this link to work with me:

2021-03-03•20mins

Listen to your favourite podcasts.

Now ad-free.

Download herd and enjoy uninterrupted, high-quality podcasts without the wait.

Download on the
App Store
#9

9. Situational Joy

In today's episode of Overcome Pornography for Good we talk about Situational Joy.Situational joy is waiting to feel joy until our situations are ideal. Situational joy shows up when we think, "i'll feel good once I lose the weight", "I'll feel good once I get the promotion", "I'll feel good once I get married", and of course, "I'll feel good once I quit pornography".There are a few problems with this way of thinking. It's not true. Our situations, our circumstances do not cause joy. We know this is true because many people view porn and feel joy. And feel confident. And feel good. Waiting to feel good until you quit porn actually keeps you from quitting porn. All of our actions come from our feelings, and so the better we feel, the better we show up. And vice-versa. The worse we feel, the worse we will show up. The best way to quit porn is to practice feeling what you would allow yourself to feel once you've already quit.Join me in today's episode to learn how.Work with me:

2021-03-17•19mins
#10

10. Am I Addicted?

In today's episode we talk about the label addiction.My personal opinion is that we use this term too liberally when it comes to porn, especially in LDS culture.Join me in the episode to learn the criteria I use when deciding if someone is addicted or not and how you can apply it to yourself.See you there!

2021-03-24•17mins
#11

11. What to Look Out For When You Stop Viewing Porn

Something happens when you quit viewing porn that might catch you by surprise.When we quit, we expect to feel great, motivated, confident.In reality, when you quit porn, you will feel terrible. All of the stuff that you have been avoiding and buffering from will come to the forefront of your mind. You will feel all of the negative emotions that you’ve been avoiding.In today’s episode, I talk about what to do when that happens. Bring a notebook and take some notes!Sara

2021-03-29•17mins
#12

12. Sin Vs Weakness

Join me on the podcast this week to discover the differences between sins and weaknesses in the eyes of God. And when you understand this difference, you will be in a much better position to decide whether your habit is really a sin, or whether it’s just an area of human weakness that every single one of us experiences in some form or another.Get full show notes and more information here: sarabrewer.com/blog/sin-weakness

2021-04-05•8mins
#13

13. Physiology Vs Morality

Discover why we should never feel negative emotion around our sexual urges. I’m sharing why these impulses are a matter of physiology, not morality, and how to neutralize the urge in your mind, so you can deal with it in a way that feels more aligned with how you want to live your life.Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-04-12•16mins
#14

14. Iceberg Emotions

Join me on the podcast this week to discover what is lying beneath the surface of your porn habit. I’m sharing the emotions I see coming up for my clients that they never wanted to see were at play. And once you can get clear on what’s causing the behavior you want to change, that’s when you can start working on overcoming pornography for good.Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-04-19•21mins
#15

15. For When it's Really Difficult

Join me on the podcast this week to discover how to embrace the discomfort of quitting pornography. I’m showing you the stories we tell ourselves that stop us from even really trying to do something we know is going to be difficult, and how to apply what you already know from other areas of your life to break your porn habit for good.Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-04-26•21mins
#16

16. Deprivation

Discover why you have way more control over your desires than you might think. I’m sharing where the feelings of deprivation and desire come from, why your past attempts to quit porn have failed, and what you can do to give yourself some power in this situation and finally ditch the habit for good.Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-05-03•21mins
#17

17. What to Do When You Slip Up

Discover what to do when you slip up. I’m discussing how to be the observer of what led to you viewing porn in the first place, and giving you questions so you can process the guilt that comes up for you before it turns into shame and self-loathing.Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-05-10•23mins
#18

18. Self-Concept and Addiction

Why describing yourself as an addict might be making overcoming pornography even more difficult than it already is. I’m sharing how I classify an addiction, and I’m giving you the tools you need to change your self-concept, so you can start to become somebody who just doesn’t need porn to feel happy.Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-05-17•27mins
#19

19. Sexual Shame

Where our sexual shame comes from, and why no matter how much of it you feel, it’s never going to help you quit viewing porn or anything else. Instead, I’m sharing where to focus if you want to quit porn, and giving you some reasons that work for my clients, rather than trying to quit because they’re ashamed of themselves.Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-05-24•29mins
#20

20. 50-50

Join me on the podcast this week to discover the principle of 50-50, and how understanding it will be key in overcoming pornography for good. I’m sharing where there is indisputable evidence that life is 50% positive and 50% negative, and how embracing it has changed my life and so many of my clients’ lives.Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-05-31•22mins
#21

21. Urge Flow

Join me on the podcast this week for a greater understanding of how your urges flow, and how to handle them when they come back time and again. You’ll discover how to live with the urge and analyze where it comes from, instead of getting caught up in negative thoughts because of your desire to view porn.Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-06-07•23mins
#22

22. Commitment Vs Motivation

Motivation doesn’t get you anywhere. Motivation doesn’t last, and truthfully, waiting on motivation will keep you from doing anything big, meaningful, or important with your life, and that includes quitting pornography. What you need is more commitment, and in this episode, I’m showing you how to cultivate the discipline and commitment required to change your pornography usage.Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-06-14•17mins
#23

23. Curiosity Vs Judgment

How to be more curious in your journey of overcoming pornography, and less judgmental. I’m sharing why curiosity will always move you through any process quicker than judgment, and what you can do to reframe those occasions when you do decide to view pornography despite trying to quit.Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-06-21•17mins

Listen to your favourite podcasts.

Now ad-free.

Download herd and enjoy uninterrupted, high-quality podcasts without the wait.

Download on the
App Store
#24

24. Fear of the Future

Discover why the fear that so many people feel around quitting porn is not the motivator you need if you want to break the habit. I’m sharing why love and hope will always take you further than fear and how you can work on overcoming any fear around porn, so you can overcome pornography for good. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-06-28•27mins
#25

25. What to Do if Your Partner is Struggling with Porn with Lindsay Poelman

Join me on the podcast this week as I put your questions to Lindsay Poelman around what to do if your partner is struggling with porn. Lindsay is sharing the story of how she found coaching, the difference it’s made in her marriage, and how you can empower yourself in navigating the ebbs and flows of a marriage. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-07-05•47mins
#26

26. The #1 Key to Quitting Pornography

In this episode, I’m sharing the key to quitting pornography and showing you how to develop a skill that will allow you to accomplish great things in your life. I’m sharing the importance of feeling your emotions and why learning how to do this will completely change your life. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-07-12•22mins
#27

27. The Shame Apathy Trap

If you feel like you’re never doing enough in your attempt to overcome pornography, or you’re starting to feel like you don’t care anymore and that’s adding to your feeling of shame, listen in this week. The shame apathy trap can make us think we just need to care more and do more, but I’m showing you how that’s the wrong place to focus on. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-07-19•25mins
#28

28. Navigating Faith Challenges with Dr. Julie Hanks

Tune in this week as I ask Dr. Julie Hanks your questions about your own faith challenges. We’re discussing some difficult topics, why it’s okay to struggle and not agree with every aspect of the LDS doctrine, and how to decide for yourself what is righteous and what the spirit is telling you. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-07-26•41mins
#29

29. How to Stop Fearing Feelings

As humans, we’re wired to do anything we can to avoid feeling our emotions, and this is exactly how a porn habit thrives. But if you listen closely this week and take action to stop fearing your feelings and instead be willing to truly feel them, the work of quitting porn becomes so much easier, and we’re taking a deep dive into how you can start this work right now. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-08-02•19mins
#30

30. The Power of Accepting Yourself

There is one thing that all of my clients have in common: difficulty accepting themselves. They want to change, and that’s great, but the truth is, you can’t make a positive change in your life if you don’t accept yourself. And that’s the work I’m helping you with on this episode. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-08-09•20mins
#31

31. "I Shouldn't Be Here"

Discover how the thought, “I shouldn’t be here” keeps you stuck where you are right now. I’m inviting you to come at this thought with curiosity instead of resistance, and you’ll start to see what an amazing opportunity questioning this thought is in helping help you quit porn for good. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-08-16•14mins
#32

32. “I Can’t”

I’m sharing the problem with thinking “I can’t” and showing you how to reframe your mindset to feel more empowered. If you’re having a hard time committing to giving up pornography, looking at your beliefs is a great place to start. So this week, I’m showing you how to challenge your thoughts and beliefs and replace them with ones that serve you better. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-08-23•14mins
#33

33. The Power of Pain

Listen in this week as I show you how going through your pain is a beautiful act, but it’s one that is not easy. I’m encouraging you to stop running from your pain, and instead, to be open to the truth that healthy individuals feel pain and use it to heal and empower themselves to create change. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-08-30•17mins
#34

34. Belief Plan

Discover how to make a Belief Plan, so you can start to see what’s possible for you. I have faith in your ability to quit pornography, and by the end of this episode, I hope you’ll see that believing in yourself and your ability to overcome porn is an option for you too. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-09-06•20mins
#35

35. Why We Desire

Discover exactly what is going on in your brain when you desire porn. Contrary to what you might believe, wanting to watch porn doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with your brain, and just because you want it now and you’re struggling to control your urges, it doesn’t have to be this way forever. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-09-13•22mins
#36

36. Lower vs. Higher Brain

Discover the difference between your lower brain and your higher brain, and how the two of them interact. Your lower brain seems powerful, but it’s nothing compared to your higher brain, and I’m showing you three tools you can start using right now to override your lower brain’s urges. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-09-20•23mins
#37

37. Shame 2.0

I outline some shame-inducing thoughts about porn that you might be believing right now, but that simply aren’t facts. For so many people, shame is the root of their porn use, and I’m inviting you to notice how you show up when you’re drowning in shame, and recognize that choosing shame is completely optional. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-09-27•25mins
#38

38. Sexual Urges Are Not From Satan

I lay out the 3 biggest problems with believing Satan is in charge of your sexual urges. Your urges aren’t dangerous or evil, and trying to overcome porn with this framework is not effective, so I’m showing you where your urges actually come from, and why this will feel so much more freeing as you work to understand your over desire for pornography. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-10-04•27mins
#39

39. Resist, React, and Allow

This week, I lay out the 3 things we can do when we feel an urge. I’m showing you how two of those options have you either acting outside of your value system, or furthering you from where you ultimately want to be, and how the third option available to you is the key to handling any urge with confidence and ease. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-10-11•20mins
#40

40. Compound Effect

This week I'm showing you why an all-or-nothing mindset stagnates your progress, and how minuscule improvements over time are more powerful than you might think. You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to be courageous enough to take it one day at a time, and I’m guiding you through it. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-10-18•19mins
#41

41. Present vs. Future Desire

Discover how to give less attention to your present desires, so you can fulfill your future desire of overcoming pornography for good. So many people want to quit porn because they’ve been told to by their parents or their spouse, but I’m sharing why these reasons alone aren’t enough to stop the short-term urge, and how to come up with a truly compelling why instead. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-10-25•22mins
#42

42. Post-Mission Porn Use

I share the lessons I’ve learned in my work helping returning missionaries who struggle with porn use. I’m showing you why returning missionaries often struggle with porn, and I’m listing 8 things that are not effective in solving for porn use, and showing you what to do instead. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-11-01•20mins
#43

43. The Observer

I’m showing you how to become the observer of your thoughts and how doing so will enable you to change your pornography habit. Being the observer will teach you so many things about your porn habit that you need to know, so I’m showing you how to observe yourself and stop believing everything your brain is telling you. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-11-08•19mins
#44

44. Lenses

I introduce you to a mind-blowing concept that will teach you how to see yourself and the world around you differently. You don’t have to believe what your lenses are showing you right now, and you can choose to switch them up if you want, and I’m showing you how. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-11-15•25mins
#45

45. Overindulgence

I show you the price you pay when you choose the short-term pleasure of overindulgence over your long-term wellbeing. I’m offering that it’s not only safe and loving to say no, but that it could even be beneficial to feel an unanswered desire. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-11-22•17mins
#46

46. Pillar One: Shame-Free Commitment

Discover how to develop the true shame-free commitment required for overcoming pornography. I’m sharing the conditioning and limiting beliefs that keep people stuck in their porn habit, and how you can move away from relying on shame and towards a porn-free life. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-11-29•26mins
#47

47. Pillar Two: Mindful Urge Management

I share my 4 tips for learning how to mindfully manage your urges. I’m showing you why you might be feeling stuck in a cycle of willpower energy right now, and what it means to just allow your urges to exist so you truly don’t have to be afraid of them. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-12-06•20mins
#48

48. Pillar Three: Emotional Regulation

Discover why, without learning the skill of emotional regulation, quitting pornography will be impossible. I’m showing you why being able to sit with your feelings is the key to creating anything you want in life, and I’m sharing my best tips and tools to help you begin practicing doing just that. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-12-13•22mins
#49

49. Pillar Four: Becoming a New Person

Listen in to discover the identity shift you are undergoing as you learn to quit porn. Becoming a new person is part and parcel of this work, but I’m showing you how to give yourself the permission to do so, and the only difference between who you are now and who you want to be. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-12-20•23mins
#50

50. How to Follow Through with Your New Year’s Goals

I share 5 of my best tips for staying committed to your New Year’s goals. I’m showing you why so many people quit on themselves, what progress really looks like versus what you think it should look like, and how to use the New Year energy to your advantage. Get full show notes and more information here:

2021-12-27•27mins

Listen to your favourite podcasts.

Now ad-free.

Download herd and enjoy uninterrupted, high-quality podcasts without the wait.

Download on the
App Store