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Loving BDSM

ByLoving BDSM
300 episodes

Podcast Summary

Dive into the captivating world of "Loving BDSM," a podcast dedicated to helping kinksters nurture happy, healthy power exchange relationships. Each episode offers an insightful exploration of various aspects of BDSM and kink, from the fundamentals of consent and communication to deeper discussions on emotional dynamics and personal growth. What sets this podcast apart is its candid approach, where hosts share their own experiences and challenges, creating a relatable atmosphere for listeners. Join insightful conversations with well-known guests, including sex educators and authors, who delve into topics like navigating the complexities of polyamory, the significance of aftercare, and the importance of community in the kink lifestyle. Whether you're a seasoned practitioner or simply curious about BDSM, "Loving BDSM" provides valuable insights and practical advice to enhance your journey. Tune in and discover how to embrace your desires while fostering connections that thrive on trust and understanding.

#1

Q&A: Am I Asking for Too Much From My Dominant?

This couple has been going through it for the past few years and have spent the past year in couples counseling, but they’re not where they were before. The submissive partner worries they may... The post Q&A: Am I Asking for Too Much From My Dominant? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-06-02•18mins
#2

Kinky Q&A

We’re back from an extra long break and we’re easing in by answering your kinky questions! In this episode: We’re starting our summer live stream schedule the first week of June – 7pm ET... The post Kinky Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-05-30•1hr 6mins
#3

Q&A: What Do I Do as a Newly Single But Inexperienced Sub?

A submissive was introduced to BDSM by a former partner, but their relationship ended before any kinky exploration. Here’s the question: I met a Dom by accident on Tinder. He suggested I look into... The post Q&A: What Do I Do as a Newly Single But Inexperienced Sub? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-05-19•15mins
#4

How to Be Consistent in D/s | Making D/s Work in the Real World

To us, the best way to be consistent in your power exchange – as a Dom or sub individually and together – is with a routine. In this episode, we’ll talk about the factors... The post How to Be Consistent in D/s | Making D/s Work in the Real World appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-05-09•1hr 21mins
#5

Q&A: How Do I Stop Apologizing While Topping?

A switch who’s new to topping keeps apologizing when their partner expresses (consensual) pain. Here’s the question: I’ve recently discovered my Switch side and Impact Topped for the first time at a kink event... The post Q&A: How Do I Stop Apologizing While Topping? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-05-05•13mins
#6

D/s When You Take Care of Others | Making D/s Work in the Real World

Whether you’re a parent (now or in the future) or you are a caregiver for an adult in your life (now or in the future), it’s going to impact your power exchange. This week,... The post D/s When You Take Care of Others | Making D/s Work in the Real World appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-05-02•1hr 22mins
#7

Q&A: How Do I Convince My Dom That I’m Ready for More?

This submissive knows they need to move slowly into D/s but nothing’s happening at all. Here’s the question: I’m 28 and am just figuring out that I want/need a Dominant partner. I’ve been kind... The post Q&A: How Do I Convince My Dom That I’m Ready for More? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-04-28•15mins
#8

D/s No One Else Will Notice | Making D/s Work in the Real World

We’re continuing our real world series by talking about how to do power exchange things or experience your D/s vibe in ways that no one else is going to notice. In this episode: Join... The post D/s No One Else Will Notice | Making D/s Work in the Real World appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-04-25•1hr 16mins

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#9

Q&A: Are These Unwanted Behaviors a Red Flag?

A submissive had to ask their partner to stop doing something twice, and now they worry it’s a red flag. Here’s the question: I am in a 3-year Daddy Dom D/s relationship with my... The post Q&A: Are These Unwanted Behaviors a Red Flag? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-04-21•15mins
#10

Kink is Customizable | Making D/s Work in the Real World

We’re starting a new series inspired by our session from the 2025 Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit and diving deeper into how to make a power exchange relationship (and kink life) work in the real... The post Kink is Customizable | Making D/s Work in the Real World appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-04-18•1hr 8mins
#11

Q&A: How Will We Know We’re Ready to Try Nonmonogamy Again?

They tried non-monogamy in the past and it didn’t work, but they’d like to try again. Here’s the question: My Daddy and I have been together for almost 2 years now. We are 24/7... The post Q&A: How Will We Know We’re Ready to Try Nonmonogamy Again? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-04-14•20mins
#12

No Topic, Just Vibes | A Bonus Section Episode

We had a topic all planned and then life threw us for a bit of a loop on a day when we were already exhausted. Since we want to do the topic justice, we... The post No Topic, Just Vibes | A Bonus Section Episode appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-04-11•1hr 7mins
#13

Q&A: How Do I Provide Emotional Support to My Dom?

A submissive isn’t sure how to be there for their switchy Daddy Dom. Here’s the question: My partner and I are both relatively new to BDSM and kink and are in a Daddy Dom... The post Q&A: How Do I Provide Emotional Support to My Dom? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-04-07•12mins
#14

Afraid to Ask for “Too Much” in Your Dynamic

After multiple emails with the same question, it was time to talk about it. If you’re afraid to ask for “too much” in your dynamic or don’t think you deserve what you want, there... The post Afraid to Ask for “Too Much” in Your Dynamic appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-04-04•1hr 0mins
#15

Q&A: How Do I Navigate Being New to Sex and Kink

A submissive is about to move in with their long distance partner. The submissive is new to sex and kink and has never done either. They have anxiety, and their partner has ADHD. And... The post Q&A: How Do I Navigate Being New to Sex and Kink appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-03-31•21mins
#16

Kinky AITA

This week’s BDSM Reddit response is a kinky version of “Am I the asshole?”! In this episode: You can still register for the Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit! Horny grandma on OnlyFans Breaking up because... The post Kinky AITA appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-03-28•1hr 25mins
#17

Q&A: Is There a Way to Be Okay With Being Called Mommy or Daddy?

A Domme wants to give their submissive what he wants – to call his partner Mommy – but it’s jarring to hear. Here’s the question: I stepped back into the BDSM lifestyle as a... The post Q&A: Is There a Way to Be Okay With Being Called Mommy or Daddy? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-03-24•18mins
#18

24/7 D/s and Total Power Exchange

Thanks to multiple questions we received in a previous “ask us anything” episode, we’re devoting an entire episode to 24/7 D/s and total power exchange – are they the same thing or not? As... The post 24/7 D/s and Total Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-03-21•1hr 11mins
#19

Q&A: How Can a People Pleaser Explore Their Bratty Side?

A submissive knows they’re a people pleaser, but they also want to explore their bratty side. Here’s the question: I am a submissive who’s been exploring kink for a few years now. I have... The post Q&A: How Can a People Pleaser Explore Their Bratty Side? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-03-17•15mins
#20

Experimenting with Rules in Public

This was a really hard episode to concisely explain in a title. We’re taking our own advice and starting low and slow when trying new things in our power exchange. In this case, we’re... The post Experimenting with Rules in Public appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-03-14•1hr 23mins
#21

Q&A: How Do We Negotiate Consensual Non-consent?

A kinky couple wants to try consensual non-consent (CNC) and is looking for ideas and tips on the negotiation process. Here’s the question: I (f26) have been with my Dom (m33) for a little... The post Q&A: How Do We Negotiate Consensual Non-consent? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-03-10•16mins
#22

Kinky Q&A

This week, we answer some of the kinky questions you asked us over on Instagram (at that handle that will be hated forever!). Links from the episode: Ask Your Questions Our mailing address is:... The post Kinky Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-03-07•1hr 15mins
#23

Q&A: What Should We Negotiate and Decide Before We Move In Together?

They’re thinking of moving in together and want to make sure they plan appropriately. Here’s the question: I am a newer submissive who’s in a LDR with a Daddy Dom. We have met several... The post Q&A: What Should We Negotiate and Decide Before We Move In Together? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-03-03•23mins

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#24

Perimenopause and Power Exchange

Perimenopause can impact a person’s life for a decade or more, so of course it affects your power exchange relationship and kink life. And it’s past time to talk about it. In this episode:... The post Perimenopause and Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-02-28•1hr 28mins
#25

Q&A: Is Punishment a Necessary Part of Power Exchange?

You’ll hear the audio skip during the intro – it was a problem we discovered after we recorded. The rest of the episode should be fine. They’ve renegotiated their power exchange and removed punishment,... The post Q&A: Is Punishment a Necessary Part of Power Exchange? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-02-17•20mins
#26

Feelings of Comfort and Familiarity

A lot of feelings come up when you’re getting back to the D/s relationship you want or reconfiguring it to work for your life now. For us, it’s been feelings of comfort (Kayla) and... The post Feelings of Comfort and Familiarity appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-02-14•1hr 15mins
#27

Q&A: How Do I Feel More Confident in Our Dynamic After Trauma?

Content warning: mentions (but no descriptions) of sexual abuse and trauma in a past D/s relationship A submissive left an abusive power exchange relationship and has found a Dominant partner that makes them happy,... The post Q&A: How Do I Feel More Confident in Our Dynamic After Trauma? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-02-10•21mins
#28

Silly Conflicts in Our Power Exchange

We needed something lighthearted this week, so we’re taking a look at some of the silly little “arguments” we get into. In this episode: Our 2025 Patreon Membership Drive is still going on! Argument... The post Silly Conflicts in Our Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-02-07•1hr 5mins
#29

Q&A: How Do I Get Out of My Head During Sex?

This week, a submissive can’t stop worrying about her partner’s previous sexual experience but her Dominant also worries he’s not giving her big enough orgasms. Here’s the question: My boyfriend and I have been... The post Q&A: How Do I Get Out of My Head During Sex? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-02-03•23mins
#30

BDSM Reddit Response

This week, we could use a cathartic rant or two, so we’re responding to the BDSM side of Reddit! In this episode: Join our kinky community during the 2025 Patreon Membership Drive and get... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-01-31•1hr 24mins
#31

Q&A: How Do I Support a Partner Who Doesn’t Take Criticism Well?

A submissive agreed to their partner “No” on agreed upon topics, but their partner reacts in a way that’s causing resentment. The submissive knows they need to talk but also knows their partner doesn’t... The post Q&A: How Do I Support a Partner Who Doesn’t Take Criticism Well? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-01-27•18mins
#32

Obedience in Power Exchange

Obedience is a necessary part of submission, but it’s not experienced the same by all submissives – or their Dominant partners. In this episode: Patreon Membership Drive is still going on! Definition of obedience:... The post Obedience in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-01-24•1hr 16mins
#33

Q&A: How Do We Maintain Our D/s Dynamic?

A Dominant wants to support their submissive but they don’t know how to do that and maintain their D/s dynamic. Here’s the question: My wife has voiced interest in kink play. She is submissive... The post Q&A: How Do We Maintain Our D/s Dynamic? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-01-20•15mins
#34

Reconnecting With Our Kinky Identities

This week, we’re talking about the early days of reconnecting with our kinky selves – what it’s been like so far, how we got here, and more. In this episode: Join us this Friday,... The post Reconnecting With Our Kinky Identities appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-01-17•1hr 19mins
#35

Q&A: Am I Really Submissive?

In this week’s episode, their partner is willing to top them but not be their Dominant. They also have conflicted feelings about their submission leading them to wonder if they’re really submissive at all.... The post Q&A: Am I Really Submissive? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-01-13•16mins
#36

Getting Our D/s Life Back in 2025

Taking a couple of weeks off was very good for us. It allowed us to rest and chill, but we also reflected on the state of our power exchange. We talked about what we... The post Getting Our D/s Life Back in 2025 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-01-10•1hr 20mins
#37

Q&A: What Happens If You Can’t Agree That a Sub Broke a Rule?

A sassy switch has a partner who pushes the boundaries as a brat, and they’re not sure how to handle potential broken rules. Here’s the question: My boyfriend (53m) and I (38 transmasc /... The post Q&A: What Happens If You Can’t Agree That a Sub Broke a Rule? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2025-01-06•18mins
#38

Looking Back at our D/s Relationship in 2024

For the last podcast episode of the year, we’re looking back at the state of our power exchange for the year. The takeaway is that not a lot happened but we’ve learned a few... The post Looking Back at our D/s Relationship in 2024 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2024-12-20•1hr 25mins
#39

Q&A: Does the Kink Community Welcome All Body Types?

This week, a plus size kinkster wants to let it all hang out at the dungeon, but not if they’ll be the only plus size person there. Here’s the question: I really want to... The post Q&A: Does the Kink Community Welcome All Body Types? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2024-12-16•9mins
#40

Answering More Vanilla Relationship Questions

We’re keeping it light and easy (and also extremely personal, apparently) this week by answering more non-kinky relationship questions. In this episode: Get free shipping on orders $35+ thru December 15 at the Kinkery!... The post Answering More Vanilla Relationship Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2024-12-13•1hr 14mins
#41

Q&A: How Do We Find the Balance Between Our Power Exchange Needs?

A submissive has needs that don’t fit naturally with what their Dominant enjoys and wonders how to find the right balance for both of them. Here’s the question: My Dom and I have been... The post Q&A: How Do We Find the Balance Between Our Power Exchange Needs? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2024-12-09•21mins
#42

Navigating the Holidays in Power Exchange

The holidays are upon us (and they keep coming back every year) so let’s talk about how to get through some of the main parts of it that can impact your power exchange. In... The post Navigating the Holidays in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2024-12-06•1hr 19mins
#43

Q&A: Why is My Sub Irritable After a Scene? Is It Drop?

A Dominant provides the aftercare his submissive wants, but she’s always cranky the day after a scene. Here’s the question: My (41m/Dom) and my wife (42f/sub) have been married for four years and discovered... The post Q&A: Why is My Sub Irritable After a Scene? Is It Drop? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2024-12-02•8mins
#44

BDSM Reddit Response

Happy Thanksgiving! We responded (and ranted) to BDSM Reddit posts. In this episode: Black Friday sales The Kinkery – 25 percent off with code SPANKS24 Our Etsy shops – 25 percent off no code... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2024-11-29•1hr 20mins
#45

Q&A: Is It OK for Subs to Call Me Sir When We Meet?

This Dominant knows not to come on too strong when getting to know submissives, but some of them call him “Sir” from the very beginning, and he’s not sure if it’s a problem or... The post Q&A: Is It OK for Subs to Call Me Sir When We Meet? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2024-11-25•9mins
#46

Kinky Q&A

We asked Instagram to ask us anything and then opened up questions to the YouTube live chat during the stream. In this episode: All of our Etsy shops are on sale through the end... The post Kinky Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2024-11-22•1hr 14mins
#47

Q&A: How Do I Talk About My Mental Health?

A kinkster who’s been dealing with burnout, depression, and other personal stuff wonders how and when to bring up their mental health to a new partner. Here’s the question: My question is – as... The post Q&A: How Do I Talk About My Mental Health? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2024-11-18•14mins
#48

Assertive Submissives

Assertive gets conflated with bratting, demanding, and/or unsubmissive-like behavior. And we fundamentally disagree, so let’s talk about it. In this episode: All of our Etsy shops are on sale thru the rest of the... The post Assertive Submissives appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2024-11-15•1hr 11mins
#49

Q&A: How Do I Handle Having a Bad Local Community?

A newish kinkster live in an area with a local kink community they’re not comfortable being part of and driving to another area isn’t an option. Here’s the question: What do I do when... The post Q&A: How Do I Handle Having a Bad Local Community? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2024-11-04•12mins
#50

Dominants and Communication

We didn’t know where this would go before we started other than saying, “Yes, Doms need to communicate effectively, too.” (Obviously.) JB shares his experiences as a Dom who has struggled to communicate in... The post Dominants and Communication appeared first on Loving BDSM.

2024-11-01•1hr 1mins

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