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The Dom Sub Living BDSM and Kink Podcast

ByDom Sub Living
88 episodes

Podcast Summary

Welcome to the Dom Sub Living Podcast, your go-to kinky resource, so you can get out of the vanilla rut, become the best Dominant or submissive you can be, and make BDSM a lifestyle.  Explore the many facets of the Dom/sub lifestyle and gain practical insights and tips to enhance your journey.Your host, Alesandra Madison, is a renowned BDSM educator, empowering individuals and couples to embrace their sensual selves. As the creator of Domsubliving.com, Alesandra promotes sex education, healthy power dynamics, and open communication. With a commitment to inclusivity, she helps kinksters create authentic and fulfilling intimate experiences.Whether you're seeking guidance, desiring to deepen your understanding of the lifestyle, or simply looking for entertainment and connection, the Dom Sub Living Podcast is your trusted companion. You’ll learn about BDSM, kink, power exchange, Daddy Dom/little girl relationships (DDlg), D/s, sexual wellness, bondage, and more.  Each episode features engaging discussions, expert interviews, and heartfelt stories, ensuring a diverse and enriching listening experience you're not going to want to miss. Hit subscribe, and get ready to transform your life and relationship.

#1

What People Get Wrong About Total Power Exchange

Does Total Power Exchange mean giving up everything—or just giving with intention?✨ Join our free community: answering the top 10 questions we get asked most about TPE, from burnout and boundaries to parenting, protocol, and sex.➡️ Join our free community: Show notes and more:

2025-06-02•23mins
#2

10 Taboo Kinks: Which Are Normal vs. Truly Dangerous?

Are your darkest desires really that dangerous?👉 Download the free checklist of 50 kinks at breaking down 10 taboo kinks—from pet play to CNC to pregnancy—and ranking them from safe to seriously risky. Find out which ones are more common than you think—and which ones even seasoned kinksters get wrong.➡️ Free checklist of 50 kinks: Show notes and more:

2025-05-26•20mins
#3

Raw, Real, and Kinky: Life Behind the Power Exchange

“Do you really live like that every day?” In this episode, we're sharing a special interview from the Kink Your Way podcast with Leann Herron. We talk about BDSM as a lifestyle, growing a kink business, breaking shame, and what it’s really like behind the scenes.➡️ Check out 'Kink Your Way': Explore our online courses:

2025-05-22•58mins
#4

BDSM for ADHD and Autism: Build a Dynamic That Fits

Think BDSM isn’t built for ADHD or autism? Think again.🎁 Get free scripts, tools & aftercare tips at sharing how neurodivergent kinksters can thrive—without masking, burning out, or giving up. Learn how to customize your dynamic, avoid ableism, and support your unique needs in kink! ➡️ Access the free Resource Library: Show notes and more:

2025-05-19•21mins
#5

Soft Doms Are In—What Gentle Domination Looks Like

Is it still dominance if it’s gentle?🎁 Grab the free quick-start guide to become a better Dom: out, soft domination isn’t weakness—it’s an intentional, emotionally intelligent way to lead and surrender. In this episode, we're exploring what gentle domination really looks like, why it’s trending in the BDSM community, and how soft Doms are rewriting the rules of control, discipline, and connection.➡️ Free Dominant quick-start guide: Show notes and more:

2025-05-12•14mins
#6

Why BDSM Works Better Than Therapy (For Some People)

What if therapy isn't the only way to heal — and sometimes, it's not even the best way?👉 Grab free resources at this episode, we're sharing why BDSM can offer healing in ways traditional therapy sometimes can't. We cover surprising insights even therapists are exploring, the hidden harm of for-profit therapy, and a powerful scene that cracked open years of trauma.Ready to explore healing on your own terms?➡️ Access the free Resource Library: Show notes and more:

2025-05-05•23mins
#7

5 BDSM Scene Ideas You’ll Want To Try Tonight

Who says you need a dungeon or hours of planning for a night you’ll never forget?🎁 Want step-by-step worksheets and real scene examples to put these ideas into action? Check out our “Scene Creation Mastery” (only $9!) at this episode we're sharing 5 simple and powerful BDSM scene ideas you can use tonight—no fancy gear or prep required. From voice-only command scenes and sensory deprivation with household items, to secret service rituals, playful punishment games, and emotional restraint with praise, you’ll find inspiration for any dynamic. Plus, don’t miss the 5-minute scene challenge! Ready to make your night unforgettable?➡️ Scene Creation Mastery course (only $9 right now!): Show notes and more:

2025-04-28•32mins
#8

BDSM & Polyamory: Master Multiple Power Dynamics Without Drama

Poly and kinky? It’s not as easy as people think.❤️ Download the free BDSM Relationship Structure Guide at sharing 5 essential rules for making BDSM and polyamory work—without the drama. Learn how to define power structures, avoid jealousy, handle communication across partners, and balance multiple D/s roles. With real stories, clear strategies, and hard truths, this is your roadmap to healthy, multi-dynamic relationships.➡️ Access the free Resource Library: Show notes and more:

2025-04-21•12mins

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#9

AI in BDSM: Can a Robot Really Be Your Sub?

Would you ever take orders from an AI Dom or command an AI sub?🎯 Want to build real D/s dynamics instead of relying on AI? Grab my free BDSM Scene Template at domsubliving.com/scene!It might sound wild, but AI is creeping into BDSM faster than you'd think. We're breaking down how people are using AI for training, control, and even aftercare—plus where it all falls short. From AI subs with no real surrender to AI Doms missing true intuition, we're diving into the future (and risks) of tech in kink.➡️ Free scene template: Show notes and more:

2025-04-14•15mins
#10

Dominants vs. Submissives: Who Really Has It Harder?

Who's got it tougher in a D/s dynamic, Dominants or submissives?🔥 Ready to level up your Dom/sub game? Check out tackling this hot topic, and it might just surprise you. We're getting into the nitty-gritty, highlighting the weight on a Dom's shoulders—like planning and managing emotions—and the trust and mental hurdles subs navigate. Whether you're leading or letting go, there's a lot to consider! Got an opinion? Tune in and join the friendly debate.➡️ Join the Dom Sub Training course: Show notes and more:

2025-04-07•16mins
#11

How to Be a More Confident Dominant

If you don’t trust your own Dominance, your submissive won’t either.🚀 Get your free How to Be a Good Dom Quick Start Guide at isn’t about being loud or forceful—it’s about presence, control, and certainty. In this episode, you’ll learn how to command attention without overcompensating, use body language to reinforce your authority, and lead in a way that makes your submissive feel safe, secure, and deeply connected to you.➡️ Free Dominant Quick Start guide: Show notes and more:

2025-03-31•21mins
#12

50 Game-Changing BDSM Tips in 15 Minutes

After 10 years of experience in the BDSM lifestyle—teaching, coaching, and living it 24/7—here are 50 game-changing BDSM tips in just 15 minutes!Want to go deeper with me on BDSM and D/s dynamics? Check out my free resources to enhance your journey: you’re new to the scene or a seasoned kinkster, these insights will help you navigate power exchange, play, communication, and more. Hopefully, at least one of these tips will be a game changer for you!➡️ Access the free Resource Library: Show notes and more:

2025-03-24•16mins
#13

Bondage for Beginners & Beyond: Ideas, Tips & Mistakes

Is your bondage routine feeling a bit stale? By the end of this episode, you'll be itching to try something new.👉 Snag a free ticket to the next summit at and Jay dive into the world of bondage from last year's Dom/Sub Dynamics Summit. They chat about everything from ropes and cuffs to the psychological side of things like power play. Whether you're new to bondage or a seasoned pro, there's something here for everyone. Plus, learn how bondage can bring you closer and boost your dynamic. Listen now and transform your BDSM journey!➡️ Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit:

2025-03-17•17mins
#14

10 Most Popular Kinks (Are Yours on the List?)

Think your kink is too weird or too basic? Spoiler: It's probably more common than you think!✅ Download your free checklist of over 50 different kinks at today!We're uncovering the top 10 kinks that captivate and connect people worldwide. From sensation play to intense power exchanges, we dive deep into what makes these kinks so popular. We also explore role-based dynamics like DD/lg and the broad world of BDSM. Whether you're new to the scene or a seasoned explorer, there's inspiration and insight for everyone. Get ready to discover your next favorite kink!➡️ Free checklist of over 50 different kinks: Show notes and more:

2025-03-10•28mins
#15

5 Sensation Play Tips for an Unforgettable Experience

Discover game-changing sensation play techniques!🔥 Read a real-life sensation play scene in action: wondered how to make your BDSM scenes 10 times more intense? Spoiler: it's not about hitting harder or using fancier toys. Dive into this episode where we reveal how sensation play can transform your experiences! Explore contrasting sensations, the magic of slowing down, and creative tools like frozen grapes. Plus, uncover the unexpected power of breath, voice, and sensory deprivation in your play. Get ready to upgrade your BDSM scenes!➡️ Free real-life scene: Show notes and more:

2025-03-03•21mins
#16

3 BDSM Mistakes I Made (That Almost Ruined My Journey!)

Are you guilty of these biggest BDSM blunders? You're not alone!💪 Master the Dom/sub lifesyle: revealing the surprises and challenges we encountered when we thought we had it all figured out. Worried you might mess up on your BDSM journey? Tune in now to avoid these common missteps and navigate your dynamic with confidence!➡️ Access the free Resource Library: Show notes and more:

2025-02-24•18mins
#17

Kink Beyond the Bedroom: What No One Tells You

Can you balance a power exchange with everyday life? What about raising kids in a D/s relationship?🔥 Grab our free BDSM resources at this episode, listen in as Alesandra sits down with Auntie Vice on Fat Chicks on Top to talk about BDSM beyond the bedroom. We cover behavior modification, the psychology of kink, navigating D/s dynamics with kids, and why communication is key in a power exchange relationship. Plus, Alesandra shares how she went from Beauty Blogger to BDSM Educator.➡️ Access the free Resource Library: Check out Auntie Vice’s work: Listen to her podcast, Fat Chicks on Top:

2025-02-20•45mins
#18

Why BDSM Turns You On: The Psychology of Kink

Why do forbidden things turn us on so much? It's not just about pleasure—it's psychology.✅ Get your FREE BDSM checklist with 50+ kinks: unravelling the psychology behind BDSM, exploring misconceptions about trauma, the science of endorphins and dopamine, and the vital role of trust and control. Delve into why anticipation feels so good, the allure of taboo desires, and how kink can serve as emotional release and even healing. Join us and discover what makes BDSM exciting beyond the physical!➡️ Access the free BDSM checklist: Show notes and more:

2025-02-17•22mins
#19

Our 24/7 Total Power Exchange Relationship: How We Built It

Total power exchange sounds intense, right? But it's not just about control; it's about trust, intention, and freedom.📝 Download your free customizable contract at us as we debunk myths surrounding 24/7 total power exchange (TPE) and share our journey into this fulfilling dynamic. Explore the foundational steps: from education, defining roles and boundaries, to creating contracts and establishing rituals. Learn how TPE can empower both partners through trust and communication. Could this be the missing piece in your relationship puzzle? Follow along and step into your own TPE journey today!➡️ Free BDSM contract: Show notes and more:

2025-02-10•26mins
#20

Wearing a Collar 24/7 in My D/s Marriage: What It’s Really Like

"When my Dom secured the collar around my neck, it gave me a huge sense of belonging and trust like never before."❤️ Visit to get $20 off your own collar with code DOMSUBLIVINGIn this episode, we explore the deep meaning of collars in a D/s dynamic, the practical aspects of wearing them 24/7, and the emotional significance they hold. Learn about different types of collars, why Alesandra chose her particular one, and tips for creating your own coloring ceremony. Curious about wearing a collar 24/7? Tune in now for insights and tips on embracing this powerful symbol in your D/s relationship!– Alesandra's collar: Show notes and more:

2025-02-03•20mins
#21

How to Reignite the Fire in Your Dom/sub Relationship

Feeling like the passion in your D/s dynamic has faded? You’re not alone—but you can bring it back!👉 Ready to reconnect and thrive in your dynamic? Explore more at sharing why losing the spark is so common and the key reasons it happens—like routine overload, lack of communication, and external stress. You’ll learn actionable strategies to reignite the fire, from revisiting your foundation to adding variety and deepening your connection. Plus, you'll get practical tips to overcome common objections and start small changes today.– All-Access Pass: Show notes and more:

2025-01-27•14mins
#22

BDSM in Real Life: A Dom/sub Married Couple Shares Their Journey

Is it possible to balance love, family, and a Dom/sub dynamic?👉 Ready to dive deeper? Join our All-Access Pass community at domsubliving.com/allaccessIn this episode, we chat with Harlo and Adira, a Dom/sub married couple navigating parenthood, health challenges, and everyday life—all while deepening their 24/7 D/s connection. They share the mindset shifts that transformed their relationship, how they handle challenges like chronic illness, and why communication and contracts are non-negotiable in their dynamic. Whether you're just starting out or looking to strengthen your dynamic, this episode is packed with real-life advice and inspiration.➡️ All-Access Pass: Show notes and more:

2025-01-20•36mins
#23

What Most People Get Wrong About BDSM Negotiation

Negotiation isn't just a skill, it's a gift you give your dynamic.🌟 Exclusive Offer: Are you ready to elevate your negotiation skills? Check out our All Access Pass now: this episode, we're exploring the must-know steps for negotiating your BDSM relationship. From prepping your thoughts to choosing the right time to talk, you'll get the lowdown on clear and honest communication. We're sharing personal stories, busting common myths, and explaining why ongoing discussions are key to keeping things spicy and smooth. Level up your negotiation game and tune in now.➡️ The Dom Sub Living All-Access Pass: Show notes and more:

2025-01-13•16mins

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#24

5 BDSM Experts Reveal the #1 Thing They Wish They Knew Before Starting

There's no guidebook for BDSM - but what if you could learn from experienced kinksters?🌟 Bonus: Access free resources and exclusive content at gathered 5 incredible kink educators to answer one key question: "What do you wish you knew before starting BDSM?" Hear invaluable insights from Evie Lupine, Sunny Megatron, Kayla Lords, John Brownstone, Amanda Dames, and Lazarus Redmayne. They share their wisdom on authenticity, community, and overcoming shame. Perfect for newbies and pros alike. Don't miss the full list of resources and your chance to connect with these experts!– Evie Lupine: Sunny Megatron: Loving BDSM: The Kink Consultant: The Duchy: Access your free gift: Show notes and more:

2025-01-06•25mins
#25

BDSM Goals: The Kinkiest Bucket List You’ll Ever See

Is your kinky bucket list feeling a bit uninspired? Let's spice it up together!👉 Download your free BDSM Bingo Card at domsubliving.com/bingoWe're diving deep into setting BDSM goals that push boundaries and bring excitement. Learn what a kinky bucket list is, why it's essential for growth, connection, and fun, and get creative ideas for beginners to advanced players. Whether you have a partner or flying solo, discover how to turn your dreams into reality with actionable steps. Ready to start? Tune in and take the first step today!– Kinky Bingo card: All-Access Pass Show notes and more:

2024-12-30•14mins
#26

How to Handle Dom/sub Conflict Without Breaking the Dynamic

Can conflict in a Dom/sub relationship become a tool for deeper connection?🔥 Download your free Protocols Master List: diving into a common pitfall: trying to "win" arguments instead of focusing on your dynamic. We're sharing firsthand experiences and comparing them to vanilla relationship conflicts. Learn practical strategies and simple rituals to keep things smooth, like using D/s language and performing specific tasks. Tune in for more tools to strengthen your relationship!➡️ Download your free Protocols Master List: Show notes and more:

2024-12-23•17mins
#27

Q&A With a 24/7 Submissive - Ask Me Anything!

Ever wonder how to truly crawl into your sub's mind or stay proactive as a sub without 'topping from the bottom? This Ask Me Anything episode is packed with your most thought-provoking questions. We’re covering:How to deeply understand your submissive's mindHow to navigate BDSM as a person with a disabilityHow to stay proactive as a sub without overstepping boundariesHow to stay connected outside the bedroom to strengthen your relationship inside itAnd, of course, the funniest (and most awkward) moment that’s ever happened in my dynamic!Whether you're a Dom, sub, or somewhere in between, this episode will leave you with practical tips, relatable laughs, and a lots of “aha” moments. Join the Dom Sub Living community to submit your own questions for the next AMA and connect with 5,000+ kinksters just like you!– Join our free community: Show notes and more:

2024-12-16•39mins
#28

Impact Play 101: 5 Beginner-Friendly Ideas to Try Now

Curious about impact play but don’t know where to start? Or maybe you’re worried about doing it wrong? Don’t stress—you’re in the right place. In this episode, we'll guide you through 5 easy, beginner-friendly impact play ideas that are safe, fun, and perfect for building your skills. We’ll cover everything from hands-only techniques to using everyday tools like wooden spoons and paddles—all while prioritizing safety and connection. Ready to explore? Grab your favorite tool (or hands!) and start experimenting with confidence!– Access the free Resource Library: Show notes and more:

2024-12-09•16mins
#29

Exploring Your Kinky Identity: BDSM Roles Beyond Dom and Sub

What's your role in the world of BDSM? Let's dive in and find out! Join us as we break down the ins and outs of BDSM roles. From Dominants and submissives to fun niche roles like primal play and rope bondage, there's something for everyone. Hear personal stories, get tips on discovering your role, and learn how to make BDSM uniquely yours. Whether you're just starting out or looking to deepen your experience, this episode's got you covered. Don't miss out—tune in now and start your BDSM adventure!– Take the Kink Personality Type Quiz: Show notes and more:

2024-12-02•17mins
#30

Service-Oriented BDSM: Elevate Your Dom/sub Dynamic

How do small, intentional acts of service transform a relationship? Join us as we dive into balancing parenthood, health, and wellness, all while serving from a place of strength. We've got tips on setting up intimate scenes, starting small with acts of service, and creating meaningful rituals. From helping with morning routines to mindful tasks like making coffee, you'll see how intentional service can really deepen your bond. Want to try it out? Grab our free list of 20 service protocols!– Free list of 20 protocol ideas: Show notes and more:

2024-11-25•17mins
#31

10 Dom/sub Ideas for Public Spaces – No One Will Notice!

Worried about keeping your Dom/sub dynamic alive in public without drawing attention We've got you covered! Join us as we dive into 10 subtle and kinky ideas for maintaining your D/s connection in everyday settings. Learn creative tips from secret hand signals to special dress codes, ensuring your dynamic stays strong and thrilling, even at family gatherings! And stick around for our favorite sneaky trick at the end!– Free list of 20+ protocol ideas: Show notes and more:

2024-11-18•18mins
#32

Dom Drop 101: Support Strategies Every Sub Should Know

Even Dominants need a break sometimes. In this eye-opening episode of the Dom Sub Living Podcast, we're breaking down the concept of "Dom drop" and its impact on the dynamic. Learn how to recognize the signs, offer tailored aftercare, and support your Dominant through emotional crashes. Discover tips to encourage rest, conduct meaningful check-ins, and rebuild your dynamic with small, achievable goals.Feeling connected? Share your experiences and support techniques, and don't forget to subscribe for more insights on BDSM relationships.– Free "How to Be a Good Dom" master list: Show notes and more:

2024-11-11•16mins
#33

Punishment or Play? How to Know the Difference in BDSM

How do you know if a spanking is all fun and games or a real punishment? Mixing them up can lead to confusion and hurt feelings, even if everything's consensual! In this episode, we're breaking down the key differences between punishments and funishments. We’re talking about setting clear intentions, avoiding mixed signals, and keeping your kinky dynamics fun and trust-filled. Get tips on how to identify and navigate emotional impacts in your scenes. Don't forget to grab our free list of 30 different punishments for some awesome inspo!– 30+ punishment ideas: Show notes and more:

2024-11-04•16mins
#34

Frightening Fantasies: Exploring Darker Desires in BDSM

Have you ever had a fantasy that scares you? Maybe it feels too intense, or you're worried it says something bad about you. Darker desires are more common than you think, and they can be safely explored with the right tools and communication. In this episode, we're diving into the psychology behind frightening fantasies like consensual non-consent, degradation play, and edge play. You’ll learn how to navigate these desires without guilt or judgment, set boundaries, and create trust through aftercare. Curious about exploring your own frightening fantasies? Tune in now!– Download your free checklist of over 50 kinks: Show notes and more:

2024-10-28•19mins
#35

Why Kink and Politics Can’t Be Separated and What It Means for You

: Is kink political? Tune in as we get real about the challenges facing the kink community today. From censorship on social media to how obscenity laws mess with our lives, we're covering it all. Learn about the fight for inclusive spaces, the valuable work of kink advocacy groups, and why your vote really matters. We also dive into the intersection of kink with issues like consent, power dynamics, and how politics shape our kink spaces - especially for marginalized folks. Get involved and subscribe now (and don't forget to vote)!– Subscribe to our free newsletter: Show notes and more:

2024-10-21•20mins
#36

Submissive Training Secrets: Mastering Your Role in the BDSM Lifestyle

What drives a submissive to grow and reach their fullest potential? It's all in the training. Join us in this episode as we break down how to create personalized training plans that fit your unique dynamic. We’ll talk about why protocols need purpose, how patience and consistency are your best friends, and the quirky yet helpful "car analogy" for ongoing improvement. Get real strategies to improve your emotional and mental connection. Grab your free "How to Be a Good Sub Cheat Sheet" and step up your D/s game!– Free "How to Be a Good Sub" Cheat Sheet: Show notes and more:

2024-10-14•24mins
#37

How to Build BDSM Protocols to Deepen Your D/s Relationship

Can serving coffee really make your Dom/sub dynamic stronger? You bet it can! Join us as we break down the ins and outs of using protocols to add depth to your relationship. Find out how small steps like kneeling and wearing a day collar can make a big difference without becoming overwhelming. We also share practical tips like doing morning check-ins and nightly rituals to keep that connection strong. Plus, hear some fun, real-life stories about how these little routines can totally transform your daily life. Want more protocol inspiration? Grab our free list of 20 different protocols! – Free list of 20 protocol ideas: Show notes and more:

2024-10-07•18mins
#38

Is BDSM Compatible with Christianity? The Surprising Truth

Can you be a devoted Christian and still enjoy BDSM? In this eye-opening episode, we're uncovering how Christian teachings on love, respect, and mutual authority can blend seamlessly with BDSM practices. We open up about our own journey of mixing faith and kink, bust common myths, and talk about the importance of exploring your desires. Tune in to see the surprising ways consensual power dynamics can align with biblical values.– Access the free Resource Library: Show notes and more:

2024-09-30•28mins
#39

BDSM Scene Structure 101: Step-by-Step from Start to Finish

Want to make your wildest fantasies come true? In this episode, we're diving deep into the intricacies of creating compelling BDSM scenes. Learn how to blend pleasure, restraint, and pain, set the perfect mood, maintain communication, and ensure smooth improvisation. Discover essential aftercare routines and tales of personal experiences that highlight the importance of emotional and physical recovery. With practical tips and negotiation strategies, this episode is a must-listen for both beginners and seasoned practitioners.– Free sample scene: Show notes and more:

2024-09-23•30mins
#40

Feeling Lost in Kink? Here’s How to Find Your Unique BDSM Path

Ever feel lost in your kink journey, like everyone else has it all figured out but you? We're diving into the complexities of navigating the kink lifestyle. Discover how to build confidence through self-exploration, find a supportive community, and safely explore your kinks. We'll also share personal stories, tips for mastering communication, and resources to help you on your journey.– Grab the Kink Bundle™: Show notes and more:

2024-09-16•11mins
#41

Vetting a Submissive? Avoid These 5 Red Flags Before You Commit

Is your potential sub truly compatible, or a red flag waiting to happen? We're diving into the crucial process of vetting a submissive, shedding light on the often overlooked but vital steps. Discover five key red flags like inconsistency and disrespect for boundaries, and why proactive sub behavior and core values alignment are paramount. Learn from personal experiences and get essential tips for fostering a healthy D/s dynamic built on trust, respect, and communication.– Free 'How to Be a Good Sub' Cheatsheet: Show notes and more:

2024-09-09•13mins
#42

Topping from the Bottom? Stop Sabotaging Your D/s Dynamic Now!

Are you unknowingly wrecking your D/s dynamic? We're diving deep into the concept of topping from the bottom and how this subtle power shift can sabotage your BDSM relationship. Learn what it is, why it happens, and practical solutions to prevent it. From open communication to setting clear boundaries, join us as we uncover how to maintain a healthy power exchange and rebuild trust.– Access the free Resource Library: Show notes and more:

2024-09-02•13mins
#43

How to Vet a Dominant: Key Questions and Red Flags to Look For

Worried about finding a Dominant who really respects your boundaries? Let’s make sure you’re in good hands. In this episode, we're breaking down the essentials of vetting a Dom. We’re talking key questions to ask, red flags to watch out for, and practical safety hacks to keep you protected. Plus, we're sharing some real-life stories and even a cool quiz to help you spot those fake doms from a mile away. Check out the fun Fake Dom Quiz and step up your vetting game!– Take the Fake Dom Quiz: Show notes and more:

2024-08-26•11mins
#44

Understanding Brats in BDSM: Embrace the Fun and Challenge!

Brats are having a moment right now, but have you ever wondered why some people love bratting in BDSM while others find it frustrating? In this episode, we're diving deep into the world of brats in the kink lifestyle. Discover the playful psychology behind bratty behavior, key distinctions between playful and disrespectful bratting, and practical tips for both Doms and subs to enhance their dynamic. Learn how to set boundaries, incorporate fun and discipline, and turn bratting into a positive force in your BDSM journey.– Free 'How to Be a Good Sub' cheatsheet: Show notes and more:

2024-08-19•13mins
#45

Maintenance Spankings: 5 Things You Need to Know

Ever wondered how to keep the spark alive in a Dom/Sub relationship and keep bratty behavior at bay? Let’s talk about maintenance spankings! In this episode, we're delving into the world of maintenance spankings. We discuss their purpose, benefits, and how they differ from punishment spankings. Learn why consistency and routine are crucial, and get tips on tracking your sessions. Tune in to find out how these prearranged, consensual acts can reinforce roles and sharpen focus, providing physical and emotional rewards for both parties.– Free checklist of 50+ kinks: Show notes and more:

2024-08-12•21mins
#46

The BDSM Olympics: Top 10 Kinky Skills Revealed

Ever wondered what it would be like to compete in a BDSM Olympics? Join us as we dive into the thrilling concept of a BDSM Olympics, exploring impact play, sensory deprivation, and the importance of safety and communication in Doom/sub dynamics. Learn about top kinky skills, like wax play, medical play, and electro play, and discover how to take your scenes to the next level. This episode covers it all with personal anecdotes, practical advice, and a unique take on the BDSM community. Tune in, subscribe, and share your thoughts on our kinky event!– Free list of kinks: Show notes and more:

2024-08-05•34mins
#47

4 Ways to Build Trust in a Dom/sub Relationship

Trust Issues in Your Dom Sub Relationship? Here's How to Fix Them! Trust is the bedrock of any strong D/s dynamic. In this episode we're discussing essential principles for building and maintaining trust. Hear personal experiences and actionable tips to help strengthen trust and create a more fulfilling relationship. Don't miss the insights on regular check-ins, accountability, and the power of vulnerability. Let's make your dynamic more fulfilling and secure!– All-Access Pass: Show notes and more:

2024-07-29•12mins
#48

From BDSM Newbie to Expert: Navigating the Stages of Your D/s Journey

Ever feel overwhelmed by the world of BDSM and don't know where to start? Or maybe you've dipped your toes in and need some tips to level up your game? This episode's for you! We're breaking down everything from newbie basics to expert moves, making it super easy to follow. You'll get the lowdown on building skills, setting up boundaries, and finding your groove in the BDSM scene. Plus, explore advanced techniques and learn why you should always keep learning. Get ready to take your BDSM journey to the next level!– Check out the All-Access Pass: Show notes and more:

2024-07-22•12mins
#49

How to Balance a 24/7 BDSM Dynamic with Vanilla Life

Ever feel like you're juggling your BDSM dynamic with your everyday vanilla life? Join host, Alesandra, as she shares her journey to harmonize work and family with BDSM desires. In this episode, learn practical tips and strategies such as setting boundaries, scheduling BDSM activities, and integrating subtle rituals into daily life. Discover how open communication and community support can help you achieve a fulfilling balance.Ready to master your Dom Sub dynamics? Be sure to sign up for our free 4-day bootcamp!– Join the free BDSM Jumpstart bootcamp: Show notes and more:

2024-07-15•11mins
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Perfectionism in BDSM as a Dom or Sub

: "Perfection is the enemy of progress in your BDSM journey." Join host, Alesandra, as she opens up about her personal struggle with perfectionism as a sub and its impact on her relationship. Discover how the pressure to be perfect can hold both Doms and subs back and learn practical tips to embrace imperfection, set realistic goals, and celebrate progress. We're also announcing our free 4-day boot camp, "Jumpstart Your BDSM Journey," complete with a private community forum, daily trainings, and coaching. Ready to conquer perfectionism? Click the links below for more insights on mastering your BDSM journey!– Join the free BDSM Jumpstart bootcamp: Show notes and more:

2024-07-08•20mins

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