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The Imperfects

ByHugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
231 episodes

Podcast Summary

We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

#1

Nas Campanella - The First Blind Newsreader in the World

Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail - www.theimperfects.com.au As the title suggests, Nas Campanella is really cool (and accomplished and driven and resilient). You might recognise her voice from the Triple J cinematic universe or know her work as the Disability Affairs Reporter for the ABC. But what you might not know is that Nas is vision impaired, or that a neurological condition means that she can’t read braille either. In this episode of The Vulnerabilitea House, Nas answers the questions “what childhood challenges best prepared you for adulthood?” Chatting to Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Nas talks about her relationship with her disability, and how it shapes her identity. Nas also dives into a powerful conversation with the guys about the role agency and accessibility in the experience of discrimination, and shares why, if a magical operation could restore her sight, she wouldn’t change a thing. Nas, it has been an absolute joy. 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-06-01•1hr 9mins
#2

Dr Louise Newson - It's Hormones. Period.

It’s that time of the month (sorry), and we’re welcoming back Dr Louise Newson to talk all things hormones. In case you missed it, last time we had Dr Louise on the pod, she shared her expertise on perimenopause and menopause. This, to no surprise, was Apple Australia's most shared podcast episode in 2024. Today, Dr Louise talks to the guys about hormones; what they are, how they impact our lives, and what the difference is between the natural and synthetic forms we can be prescribed. Discussing the naturally occurring cycles of hormones, as well as the dramatic hormone drop offs that can happen throughout a lifetime, Dr Louise shares the impact of hormones for PMS, PMDD and post-natal depression. Dr Louise, this has been life changing. If you would like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: 🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode: Dr Louise Newson - Maybe It’s Menopause - 🎧Things to listen to: The Dr Louise Newson Podcast - Talking to my daughter: understanding hormones, contraception, PMS & the gaps in sex ed - The Dr Louise Newson Podcast - Testosterone and the hormone triangle, with Dr Mohit Khera - 💻 Things to check out: Balance website - Balance App - 💊To find more information about contraception Sexual Health Victoria - Children by Choice - Dr Louise Hormone Health Hub - 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - 🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode ...

2025-05-25•1hr 38mins
#3

Dr Emily - How To Get UNSTUCK

Quick! Is anyone here an author? Yes! And her book is finally here! Our favourite psychologist, Dr Emily Musgrove, has published the most anticipated book of the year, Unstuck: A guide to finding your way forward to the life you want to live. Feeling stuck, and the yearning for something to change, is a human experience. And in Unstuck, Dr Emily doesn’t just acknowledge this feeling, she walks with you through it. We’re talking values, we’re talking an introduction to acceptance commitment therapy, and we’re talking self-compassion (among many, many other things). At its core, this book is a model for how we might approach change. It’s compulsory reading. Unstuck is available now in all good bookstores, or you can order it online here - If you want to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - 🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Dr Emily - What Are Your Values? - 📖 Things to read: Summer Day by Mary Oliver - 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - 🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-05-22•27mins
#4

Monty Dimond - Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired

It’s a Monty type of day - and thank god, because this week we welcome the brilliant Monty Dimond into the studio. In this episode, Monty opens up about the heartbreak of losing her mum—her person, her sense of home and safety. She speaks candidly about the tunnel vision of ambition, living with imposter syndrome, and how a debilitating chronic illness left her bed-bound for 90% of last year. Hugh and Monty share an incredibly vulnerable chat about parenting neurodivergent children; sharing the intense challenges, boundless love and ways they can show compassion to themselves and others. If you're not familiar with Monty yet, she's the founder and co-host of the Show and Tell platform, which includes the newly released podcast iChronic, Monty is a pillar of Australian media (including a co-hosting a national drive show with our very own Sheltzy). Monty, we are in awe of you. To watch this full video of YouTube, follow this link: 🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode: Janelle Booker - Living with ADHD - Hugh’s Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People - Michael (Wippa) Wipfli - Light at the End of the Tunnel - 🎧 Things to listen to: iChonric - Show and Tell - 💻 Things to check out: Kristy Forbes’ Workshops - 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - 🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professio...

2025-05-18•1hr 38mins
#5

Dr Emily - Grief Lightening

What would it look like if we were more open to grief? This week, as promised, we are joined by our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove to talk through grief from a clinical perspective. Grief is proof of life, and proof of love. And while it is an incredibly unique experience for each person, there is a universality to it as well. Dr Em walks us through how grief impacts the brain on a neurological level, and unpacks its unpredictable, non-linear path. Explaining the difference between grief and grieving, Em reminds us about the importance of turning towards the pain and how to learn to ride the waves of grief, rather than expecting them to disappear. And on a practical level, Ryan asks about what you can actually do for someone in grief to show them love and support. If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: If you would like to pre-order Em’s book Unstuck, click here: 🫖 Other Imperfects episode’s mentioned in this episode Lauren Zonfrillo - Grief: The Shittest Greatest Gift - Jamila Rizvi - Living with the effects of a brain tumour - Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - Clare Bowditch - Music, Panic Attacks & Body Image - 📖 Things to read The Grieving Brain - Mary-Frances O’Connor - Self Compassion - Kristin Neff - Wherever You Go, There You Are - Jon Kabat-Zinn - Till Death Do Us Part - Lauren Zonfrillo - 💻 Things to check out Stroebe and Schut Dual-Process Model of Grief - Elisabeth Kubler-Ross Stages of Grief - Meghan Riordan Jarvis’ work - ☎️ If you, or someone you know, is struggling with grief, Griefline 1300 845 745 is a great place to start 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - 🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfect, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects The Imperf...

2025-05-11•1hr 26mins
#6

Lauren Zonfrillo - Grief: The Shittest Greatest Gift

Lauren Zonfrillo knows grief - intimately, devastatingly, and meaningfully. Almost two years since the sudden death of her husband Jock, Lauren describes grief as the ‘shittest, greatest gift’, and how she navigated unimaginable loss while continuing to parent two young children. In this episode, Lauren shares what she learnt about herself in the days, weeks, and months since Jock’s passing. Discussing with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about her evolving relationship with spirituality, Lauren vulnerably shares how she is beginning to reconcile her identity as a mother, widow, and person in her own right. Lauren, thank you for such a special episode. If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: 📖 Things to read: Till Death Do Us Part - Lauren Zonfrillo - Last Shot - Jock Zonfrillo - Finding Meaning - David Kessler - ☎️ If you, or someone you know, is struggling with grief, these are some great resources to start with National Centre for Childhood Grief - Griefline - 1300 845 745 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - 🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfect, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-05-04•1hr 24mins
#7

Hugh’s ADHD…brief (Bonus From Patreon)

It’s the episode we’ve all been waiting for – a peek inside Hugh’s brain. After our episode with psychologist and ADHD expert Janelle Booker - and a reboot of his algorithm that Hugh related to on a spiritual level - Hugh began to wonder whether his time-blindness, reject sensitivity and inability to focus on things he wasn’t interested in, could be explained by ADHD. Turns out, yeah. Hugh pretty much definitely has ADHD. Exploring Hugh’s lived experience, Ryan and Josh chat through how Hugh has reconciled his incredible frustrations into acknowledgment and celebration for his strengths. This episode is a snippet from an A Little More Imperfects Patreon episode: a place where we publish fortnightly bonus episode, early access to tickets and talk to our community about upcoming guests, bonus content and what they want to see more of. If you would like to become a member of our Patreon community, follow this link: www.patreon.com/theimperfects To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here: 🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Janelle Booker - Living with ADHD - 💻 Things to check out Alex Patridge - 12 Lie People with ADHD tell themselves - ttps://bit.ly/41cHcnd Alex Patridge - How to understand ADHD Overwhelm in 35 seconds - 📺 Things to watch Celeste Barber’s Australian Story - Unfiltered - 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - 🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-04-27•55mins
#8

Simon Hill - Eating Imperfectly vs Perfectly Eating

Chasing the ‘perfect’ diet is a trap; which is really great news for our brand. Simon Hill, nutritionist, physiotherapist, and host of The Proof podcast, joins us in the Academy of Imperfection to break down whether the latest dietary trends on social media actually match up with nutrition science. In this episode, Simon unpacks the role of both genetics and lifestyle choices in shaping our health, and specifically our risk of disease. Acknowledging the pressure, and sometimes shame, that comes with chasing the ‘perfect’ diet, Hugh, Ryan, and Josh discuss how to encourage kids to build positive relationships with food, and the incredible significance of ‘joy’ and ‘human connection’, that occurs when we get together to eat. And then, of course, we play Simon Says and bust some food-myths about supplements, plant protein, and whether breakfast is the most important meal of the day. Simon, thank you for all that you says. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: 🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode: Felice Jacka - Food For Thought - Professor Tim Spector - Food Fight - Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way to Your Top - 📖 Things to read: The Proof is in the Plants - Simon Hill - The Skeptics’ Guide To The Universe - Steven Novella - 🎧Things to listen to: The Proof with Simon Hill - The Proof - Menopause masterclass (Part 1) - The Proof - Your menopause questions answered (Part 2) - 💻Things to research: Approx. 50% of cardiac deaths are sudden cardiac deaths 50% - 30 different plants a week study - To know more about ApoB, and it’s link to cholesterol - & The Mind Diet - Mediterranean Diet - To know more about the Carnivore diet - & Creatine and cognition - Impact of creatine on depression and CBT - Impact of creatine on bone health for menopausal women - & Impact of creatine on sleep deprivation - Simon’s Prebiotics - 38TERA - 🍎Use code THEIMPERFECTS for $10 off your first order with 38TERA (not sponsored at all, Simon’s just a really ...

2025-04-20•1hr 35mins

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#9

Courtney Ugle - Intergenerational Strength

Trauma ran through Courtney Ugle’s family - until it ran into her. CEO and founder of Waangkiny, as well as a football superstar, Courtney is on a mission to transform her adversity into resilience, power, and love. In our Vulnerabilitea House, Courtney answers the question, “what childhood challenges best prepared you for adulthood?”, diving into how she copes with the loss of her greatest source of unconditional love and support, and how this drives the work that she does today. In conversation with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Courtney speaks to the raw intersection of grief and joy, and what it is like to realise that the only person coming to save you, is you. Courtney, we can’t wait to have an oat magic with you soon. If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: If you would like to host your own Vulneratilitea House, you can purchase the cards here - 💻 Things to checkout: Waangkiny - 📺 Things to watch: Once Were Warriors - 🚨If you, or someone you know, has experienced or is at risk of domestic violence, call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you’re feeling unsafe, call 000. 🩷If you want A Little More Imperfects, join our Patreon to get just that - www.patreon.com/theimperfects 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - 🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au This episode of The Imperfects discusses domestic and family violence. If these topics are too much for you right now, then we suggest you skip this one and come back when you're ready.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-04-13•1hr 16mins
#10

Dr Emily - How to Be Leaned On

Chances are, you’ve supported someone going through a tough time. And while the meaning sustains the sacrifice, today we want to support you ….. supporting them. A bit of support inception, if you will. To guide us through this incredibly complex and meaningful topic is our resident psychologist, Dr Emily Musgrove. Navigating relationships requires awareness. Showing up as a partner, friend, parent, or sibling while holding space for pain – without being overwhelmed – is a skill that takes practice. Reminding us that no one hates their struggle more than the person suffering, Dr Em delves into some practical strategies of support, such as walking the line between respect and care, as well as always understanding the difference between effort and capacity. To all of the supporters and carers listening, we see you. We love you. And we hope you felt held, too. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - To pre-order Dr. Em’s book Unstuck, click here - 🎧 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Dr Emily - Resent Less, Live More - Esther Perel - Let’s Be Better Lovers - 💻Things to check out: Carer Gateway - 🩷If you want A Little More Imperfects, join our Patreon to get just that - www.patreon.com/theimperfects 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - 🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-04-06•1hr 22mins
#11

Danielle Laidley PART 2 - Her Public Outing

This is PART TWO of our chat with footballer, coach and uniter of people, Danielle Laidley. We HIGHLY recommend you go back and listen to part one if you haven’t heard it (linked below). In this episode, Danielle recounts how it felt to be publicly outed, her own voice removed as the media crafted their own narrative about her identity. A story of courage, resilience and love, Danielle vulnerably shares with Hugh, Ryan and Josh how she united her two worlds, and found the strength to live authentically for herself, and become a role model for others. To watch the entire interview with Danielle on YouTube, click here - 📖 Things to read Don’t Look Away - Danielle Laidley - 📺 Things to watch Revealed - Danielle Laidley: Two Tribes - ☎ If you need support after listening to this episode, these are a few great places to start: QLife - 1800 184 527 Rainbow Door - 1800 729 367 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-03-30•47mins
#12

Danielle Laidley PART 1 - Her Private Struggle

Danielle May Laidley was known by a different name for the first 53 years of her life. We are so proud that this episode is a contributing factor to her reclaiming her narrative as a transgender woman. An extremely talented AFL footballer, Danielle would go on to become a highly respected coach, always keeping within arm’s reach the version of herself which felt most authentic. Danielle’s story, in its entirety, is so incredibly important that we had to split it over two big and special episodes. In this first part, we are introduced to phase 1 of her life: the footballer, the husband and the coach and with an addictive personality that caused her to become tough, fierce and obsessed with footy. Danielle discusses with Hugh, Ryan, and Josh the strict compartmentalisation of the different parts of her life during her AFL career, and the terrifying risks she took to satisfy the cravings to be her authentic self. You can watch the entire interview (Part One and Part Two) on YouTube, here – 🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Mick Fanning - Riding The Waves of Loss - 📖 Things to read Don’t Look Away - Danielle Laidley - 📺 Things to watch Revealed - Danielle Laidley: Two Tribes - 🖼️ If you want to join out patreon A Little More Imperfects, go to www.patreon.com/theimperfects ☎ If you need support after listening to this episode, these are a few great places to start: QLife - 1800 184 527 Rainbow Door - 1800 729 367 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-03-30•1hr 4mins
#13

Let’s Talk About Hugh’s Open Letter

It’s been a big few weeks since Hugh released his Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People (episode linked below). If you haven't heard it, it’s best to listen to that before you listen to this episode. Today we wanted to catch up and reflect on whats happened since. Hugh shares some beautiful messages, and Josh asks, practically, how we can show less judgement and more empathy to neurodivergent people and the people who care for them. Then, Ryan does some quick maths to fact check Hugh’s claim to reply to every single message he’s received since the Open Letter went live. We are so profoundly grateful for every message of love and support. Love, The Imperfects xxx 🎧 If you want to listen to Hugh’s Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People, click here - 💻 If you want to watch this full chat on YouTube, click here - See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-03-27•43mins
#14

Stephen Curry - I Dug a Hole… and Found Myself

Get excited, it’s finally Steve Curry* day. Actor, comedian, and expert hole digger (you bet we snuck this in here), Steve joins us to share his personal and professional epiphany: a ‘collaboration realisation’ his lightbulb moment about teamwork, success, and the power of vulnerability. In our Vulnerabilitea House, Steve answers the questions ‘When was a time you genuinely needed help? Were you able to ask for it?’, and discusses the joy of working in a team where success is a joint effort. This is such a joyful episode, Steve, we are definitely friends for life (can you hook us up with Helen too?) *not the basket baller If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: 🦁 Things to check out Helen Carmichael - See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-03-23•1hr 10mins
#15

Dr Julie Smith - Building Confidence, Brick by Brick

Clinical psychologist Dr Julie Smith has a gift for explaining complex ideas in under a minute (which is GREAT for new-age attention spans). With over 4.8 million TikTok followers, two best-selling books and a glowing endorsement from our own Dr Em, having Dr Julie join our Academy of Imperfection is nothing short of a dream. In this episode, Dr Julie reframes the feeling of overwhelm, helping us to see it as valuable information about how we might not be meeting our needs, rather than something to fear. Then, it’s all about confidence, baby. Getting into the nitty-gritty, Ryan and Dr Julie redefine failure, showing how confidence isn’t just built from successes, but from every experience – good, bad and (luckily for Hugh) the awkward. Oh, and did we mention she’s Dr Em approved? Smithy, we’d gladly talk to you forever. If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: 🫖 Imperfects episode mentioned in this episode Missy Higgins - Quitting Music, Depression & Connection - 📖 Things to read: Open When by Dr Julie Smith - Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before by Dr Julie Smith See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-03-16•1hr 8mins
#16

Hugh's Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People

This is an open letter to parents of autistic and neurodivergent people. It may be confronting. Please take care when listening. Love, Hugh See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-03-13•15mins
#17

Hannah Diviney - Disabled in an Able-Bodied World

Hannah Diviney is one of the most powerful people in pop culture. At just 25 years old, the author, advocate, and actor hasn’t just called out Lizzo for using an ableist slur—she also took on Queen B herself. And she succeeded on both fronts. Which, once you get to know her, isn’t surprising at all. In our Vulnerabilitea House, Hannah reflects on the questions: “How do you see yourself? Is it the same way your loved ones see you?” Answering with incredible vulnerability, Hannah shares how her relationship with her disability has evolved over time and what it was like growing up in a world where the Paralympics seemed like the only visible marker of success. We talk to Hannah about being a part of intimate television history, and Ryan, the love doctor, Shelton manifests a Brad (or Stewie, or Chris, or Michael-Angelo) in her future. Hannah, we are so desperate to be your friend. To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here: 🫖 Imperfects episode’s mentioned in this episode Grant Denyer - Self Worth Was Worth Fighting For - 🎟️ Things to go see Audrey at the Melbourne Women in Film Festival - 📺 Things to watch Latecomers - Hannah’s speech at the National Press Club - 📖 Things to read I’ll Let Myself In by Hannah Diviney - The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-03-09•1hr 34mins
#18

Dr Emily - Hope

Today, Dr Emily talks about hope. And in a world where things can feel a little bit hopeless, this really couldn’t have come at a better time. In contrast to all of our understanding up until this point, hope is not an emotion. Expertly defined by Dr Emily, hope is a belief. And most significantly, it can be learned, and it can be cultivated. Psychological mic-drop. This episode delves into strategies for creating both a sense of collective and individual hope, and in a discovery which happens to be VERY on-brand for this podcast, Dr Emily talks to the significance of vulnerability and connection in living a hopeful life. We hope you enjoy this one as much as we did. If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - 📚To pre-order Dr Emily’s book Unstuck, click here - 🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Dr Julia Baird - An Awe-full Conversation - 📖 Things to read Martin Seligman - Theory of Learned Hopelessness - Rick Snyder - Hope Theory: Rainbows in the Mind - Jamil Zacki - Hope for Cynics - Robyn Walser - Heart of ACT - Barbara Frederikson - Reflections on Positive Emotions and Upward Spirals - Nick Cave’s letter - Victor Frankl - Man’s Search For Meaning - 💻Things to check out Dacher Keltner’s work - Obama’s ‘Hope’ poster - The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-03-02•1hr 16mins
#19

Matthew Murphy - A Sober Wombat

Matthew Murphy, front-man of the iconic UK band The Wombats, joins us in our first VulnerabiliTea House of 2025. In this episode, Murph answers one of life’s most terrifying questions, “In what ways do you fear you could negatively impact your children?” He also shares his experience with panic attacks, anxiety and depression and is extremely honest detailing how alcohol became a crutch. Becoming sober, which Murph describes as the best decision of his life, was not easy. Murph goes into detail about what the withdrawal process was like and how he began to find joy in activities again. Murph, thank you for soundtracking our youths (and current lives), and thank you for this incredibly helpful conversation. If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: 💿 Things to listen to: Love Fame Tragedy (Murph’s solo project) - The Wombats new album Oh! The Ocean - Enjoyed this episode but want a little more? Good news, we have a brand new show called A Little More Imperfects over on Patreon! Visit: www.patreon.com/theimperfectsIf you would like to receive a weekly Vulnerabilitea-mail newsletter, where you can answer this question yourself, click subscribe on our website www.theimperfects.com.au The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-02-23•52mins
#20

Get Ready. We’re Touring A Brand New Live Show!

It’s time for Announcement Number Three! A brand-new Imperfects Live Show (!!!!!!). That’s right, we’re going on the road again. In October, November, and December of this year (2025), we’ll be performing a brand-new stage show, around the country! It’s gonna be bigger, it’s gonna be better, and we promise we won’t let Hugh (or Chat GPT) write the show. All responsibility will henceforth be given to Random Word Generator! We would love and adore to see you there! 🎟️ Click here to get your tickets – If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - If you would like to subscribe to A Little More Imperfects, click here – www.patreon.com/theimperfects 🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-02-20•15mins
#21

Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top

Psychologist Maria Ruberto is back to talk about one of the most important parts of our day: sleep. Starting off with the biology of sleep, Maria takes us through how we get to sleep, what happens when we sleep, and why we desperately need to sleep for good health and longevity. With metaphors galore to make the science as relatable as possible, we discuss the role of melatonin, the impact of screens on our suprachiasmatic nucleus and whether it’s worth cutting your sleep short to exercise? In more practical terms, Maria shares what sleep hygiene actually looks like, and, to Hugh and Josh’s relief, how hormones released during parenthood act to buffer against sleep deprivation. So set your sleep alarms, get comfy, and tuck yourself in for a BIG episode! Sweet dreams x If you would like to watch this full video on YouTub, follow this link: If you’d like to subscribe to our Patreon, A Little More Imperfects, sign up here: Patreon.com/theimperfects 🫖 Other Imperfect’s episodes mentioned in this episode: Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - Dr Emily - Social Anxiety, They’ve Got It Too - 💻 Things to check out: Salutegenics Psychology - Resilience First Aid - Matt Walker’s Website - www.sleepdiplomat.com Matt Walker’s QQRT assessment - 🎧 Things to listen to: Jerry Seinfeld - The Tim Ferriss Show - 📖 Things to read: Why We Sleep by Matt Walker - Michael Mosley’s Research - Resilience First Peer Reviewed Research - 📺 Things to watch: Professor Jeff Ilaff - TedTalk on Sleep - Matt Walker - REM sleep psychosis - Matt Walker - MasterClass on Dreaming - 💤 Melbourne Sleep Labs: *please note, some of these require a referral from a GP or specialist Alfred Health - Monash Health - Epworth Sleep Centre - Melbourne Sleep Disorders Centre - The Royal Melbourne Hospital Sleep Clinic - The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is gener...

2025-02-16•1hr 53mins
#22

Mick Fanning - Riding The Waves of Loss

The stoke level is pretty high this week because we are joined by three-time world champion surfer, shark attack survivor, and maybe the nicest guy we have ever met, Mick Fanning. We had high expectations for this chat (we mean, it’s Mick Fanning), but he absolutely blew us out of the water with his humanity, compassion, empathy, and positivity in the face of incredible tragedy. Mick, we’ll definitely take you up on that offer of a surf (and lifelong friendship). To watch this full video on our YouTube, click here - To subscribe to A Little More Imperfects on Patreon, follow this link: Patreon.com/imperfects To subscribe to our newsletter, The Vulnerabilitea-Mail (which includes a reflective journalling question based on this episode), follow this link: 🎧 Things to listen to: Brooke Blurton - The Path of Most Resilience - Michael Klim - The Race of His Life - 📺 Things to watch Mick’s encounter with the shark - ⛳️Things to check out Mick’s Charity Golf Day (all proceeds are donated to communities impacted by the 2022 Northern Rivers Floods) - See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-02-09•1hr 40mins
#23

We're Back! And A Little More Imperfect

Well, well, well. We’re (officially) back for 2025, baby! On Hugh’s agenda for today’s episode: nugatory chat, ghosts, general excitement for the new season and we also reveal THE SECOND BIG ANNOUNCEMENT! That’s right, The Imperfects are bringing you a new show. A Little More Imperfects, which can be found on Patreon, is bonus fortnightly episodes featuring everything that you know and love (Josh going deep, Ryan being hilarious and Hugh giving life changing advice / intense second hand embarrassment) PLUS early access to live show tickets and events and great discounts on our merch. So enjoy this sneak preview, and we can’t wait for the season ahead. If you would like to subscribe to our Patreon, follow this link - If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube (and catch a glimpse of organised Hugh for the only time this millennia), click here - 🎧 Things to listen to: Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - Janelle Booker - Living with ADHD - 📖 Things to buy: Our new journal, My Imperfect Life - 📃Things to subscribe to: Our newsletter, The Vulnerabilitea-mail - See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-02-02•28mins

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#24

James van Cuylenburg - What’s Your Relationship Status?

It’s our last episode of Summer School, and today we welcome back clinical psychologist (and “clinical cousin” of Hugh and Josh), James van Cuylenburg. In this episode, James tells us EVERYTHING we need to know about our relationships… well almost everything…there’s a lot to cover. From attachment styles, to breaking trust, to learning how to own your feelings and navigating coupledom through life’s changing seasons. Getting into the nitty gritty, Hugh asks James about intimacy and what happens when you’re not…. having any. And how to start a conversation with your kids about pornography. Relationships make life worth living and whether they’re with an intimate partner, a friend, or yourself, they should be cherished and treated with care. James, we thank you for your guidance. If you liked this episode, and wanted to do some further reflection on it, each week our Vulnerabilitea-mail newsletter shares a question to get you thinking deeper. We’d love to hear from you, so please send your reflections in to the link provided. Subscribe here! If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - 🎧Things to listen to James’ new podcast (that he makes with ANOTHER van Cuylenburg) You’re a Good Kid - James van Cuylenburg - Love Your Wonky Bricks - Esther Perel - Let’s Be Better Lovers - Chanel Contos - Consensual Healing - 📖 Things to read Attached by Dr Amir Levine and Rachel S.F Heller M.A - 💻Things to check out Teach Us Consent Website - Three Sided Pillar (triangle of happiness) - 🚨If you, or someone you know, has experienced or is at risk of domestic violence or coercive control, call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you’re feeling unsafe, call 000. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-01-26•1hr 35mins
#25

Imperfect Birth Stories with Sophie Walker

In this episode of our Summer School, we are joined by Sophie Walker, creator, and host of Australian Birth Stories. With over 17 million downloads, and 500 episodes, Australian Birth Stories podcast has been accredited by the Australian College of Midwives and has been instrumental in educating and empowering both people who are giving birth, as well as birthing partners. Hugh shares the incredible trauma and fear involved with his first experience of birth, and how tools of education and empowerment, such as Lael Stone’s excellent counselling, helped him prepared for birth a second time around. The power of information is invaluable, and Josh opens up about how Hugh’s experience with birth shaped his own, and what the experience was like for him. Sophie, it was such a pleasure. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: 🎧 Things to listen to: Australian Birth Stories Podcast - Lisa Wipfli’s episode - Lael Stone’s episode - Lael Stone on The Imperfects: Creating Emotionally Intelligent Humans - Take Care of Yourself - Parent Yourself First - Martin Heppell on The Imperfects: The Vulnerabilitea House - Martin Heppell - Martin “Rac” Heppell - The other F word ….. FAILURE - Jack Post - Natal Depression - 💻 Things to check out: The danger of a single story TedTalk - Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie - Australian Birth Stories Birth Class Course - 📖 Things to read: The Complete Australian Guide to Pregnancy and Birth by Sophie Walker - If you, or someone you know, is struggling with post-natal depression or anxiety surrounding birth, these are a few great websites we’ve found cope.org.au panda.org.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-01-19•1hr 1mins
#26

Surprise! You’re Writing A Book!

B b b bonus episode! We proudly present to you My Imperfect Life: a novel journal written by you. That’s right, we’re releasing a book, but making you do all the work. With 100 questions inspired by episodes from 2024 on The Imperfects, My Imperfect Life is an introduction to vulnerability, allowing you to unpack your own imperfect life and be more vulnerable with yourself (because we know vulnerability with others can be A LOT). To celebrate the launch of My Imperfect Life, we are inviting you to a reverse book singing at Readings Emporium Melbourne on Friday January 31st at 5:30pm, where we want to meet you, the author (and perhaps get a photo with you too, and maybe an autograph if you’re not too busy). 🎟️ To buy a ticket to the Reverse Book Signing (which includes a copy of My Imperfect Life that you will pick up on the day), follow this link – 📖 To just purchase My Imperfect Life, click here – 📃 To become our penpal, join The VulnerabiliTea-mail, a weekly newsletter where we’ll send you one vulnerable question inspired by the current episode, to help you unpack your own imperfect life. Subscribe at theimperfects.com.au 🎧 Things to listen to Nathan Cavaleri – The Ups & The Blues - Michael Klim – The Race of His Life - Rana Hussain – Belonging For Connection - See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-01-16•34mins
#27

Bronnie Ware - What Are Your Future Regrets?

There will come a time for all of us (unless we REALLY make some improvements with bio-hacking) where we are faced with our own mortality. Who is at your hypothetical bedside? Are you happy with how you’ve lived? Do you have any regrets? In this Summer School edition of the Academy of Imperfection, we are joined by Bronnie Ware. Bronnie found herself in palliative care, caring for, and listening to, the dying. And boy, are we glad she did. Bronnie collated, and published, the Top 5 Regrets of the Dying (listed below for your convenience), and this episode is devoted to talking through what each of these might mean for Hugh, Ryan and Josh. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me I wish I hadn’t worked so hard I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends I wish that I had let myself be happier Perfectly timed for the New Year, we hope you get as much out of this episode as we did. Bronnie, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with us. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: 📖 Things to read: The Top Five Regrets of the Dying - Bronnie Ware - Bronnie’s original blog post - Regrets of the Dying - From Strength to Strength - Arthur C. Brooks - Strong Female Character - Fern Brady - Laughing Heart - Charles Bukowski - 🎧 Things to listen to: Paul Kelly - I Wasted Time - Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World - See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2025-01-12•1hr 3mins
#28

Little Boy Christmas - The Forgotten Son of Mr & Mrs Claus

Quick heads up: Little Boy Christmas has a tenuous relationship with his parents, and therefore, this episode isn’t suited for kids. Have you ever wondered about Little Boy Christmas, the forgotten son of Santa and Mrs Claus? Nope, neither had we. That’s probably why he’s forgotten. Looking like an unbelievably shredded Dickensian orphan (you’re going to want to watch the YouTube for this one), Little Boy Christmas chats to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the physical and psychological pressures of being in the most famous family in the world. A BIG thank you to Guy Montgomery who introduced us to Little Boy Christmas. All ad revenue from this episode will be donated to Guy Montgomery’s chosen charity of Auckland City Mission. Auckland City Mission responds to poverty, aiming to help people find permanent housing and food. If you’d like to donate, or check out what they’re about, follow this link - 🎧Things to listen to: Mrs Claus - Santa’s Better Half - Santa Claus - A Special Vulnerabilitea House - Guy’s podcast - The Worst Idea of All Time - 📺 Things to watch: Guy Montgomery’s Guy Mont Spelling Bee - 🎟️ Things to buy tickets to: I’ve Noticed So Many Things, It’d Be Unfair To Keep Them To Myself tour Australian Tickets - NZ Tickets - See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2024-12-22•27mins
#29

Michael Theo - Life on the Spectrum

You may know Michael from Love on the Spectrum, or his podcast Mr A+, or even his appearance on Ellen – he’s done it all and has gained an incredible amount of wisdom on his journey so far. We’ve been doing this show for six years, and no-one has ever summarised it as well as Michael Theo: trying to be perfect is a wild goose chase. In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to Michael about how he found his voice after growing up as a non-verbal kid, and instils on the guys some advice on how to handle nerves (and do some proper improv). Michael, we had an absolute blast. We’ll see you for a Yowie sometime soon. If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: 🎧 Things to listen to: Mr. A+ - Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World - Grace Tame - “Sexy, Scissoring, Autism!” - Jackson Tozer - Don’t Give Up On Me - Jack Steele - Socials Anxiety - Janelle Booker - Living With ADHD - Santa Claus - A Special Vulnerabilitea House - Mrs Claus - Santa’s Better Half - 📺 Things to watch: Love On The Spectrum - Austin - Michael’s Interview on Ellen - Puss In Boots - The Last Wish - 📱Things to check out: Wable - See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2024-12-15•1hr 3mins
#30

Layne Beachley - Surf’s Up… And Down

Today we welcome into the studio 7 time world champion surfer, and all-round legend, Layne Beachley. Layne, who had the self-described ‘compassion of a tiger shark’ during her competition days, has lived an incredible journey to learn how to love others, and more importantly, herself. Upon discovering that she was adopted, Layne internalised a fear of rejection and intense need to prove herself. What’s one way to prove yourself, you may ask? Becoming a world champion, no matter the cost. In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh talk to Layne about the narrative that she created for herself, and how this affected her self-worth, body image and relationships. There is SO MUCH good stuff in this episode, and we can’t wait for you to enjoy your day at the Beach(ley). Layne, you are an absolute legend. Thank you for your generous vulnerability. If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - ALSO if you would like to buy tickets to Josh’s gig (!!!!!) click here - 📖 Things to read: Awake Academy - Layne Beachley and Tess Brouwer - Beneath the Waves - Michael Gordon with Layne Beachley - From Strength to Strength - Arthur C Brooks - Build the Life You Want - Arthur C Brooks and Oprah Winfrey - ☕️Places to get coffee (and find your laptop cover): Aegyo Cafe - See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2024-12-08•1hr 28mins
#31

Johann Hari - Beware The Thrill of The Magic Pill

Johann Hari is a prolific author, deep thinker, and seasoned guest of The Imperfects. In this episode, Johann takes the guys on a deep dive into the Western food system, and how processed food has completely derailed our nutritional wisdom. Our relationship with food is a very personal one, and Johann and Josh get vulnerable about how they have used food to manage emotions. They discuss how vanity comes into play, the plethora of risks and benefits to the new weight-loss drug like Ozempic, and if their introduction of could derail any notion of self-acceptance. This episode does discuss eating disorders and suicidal ideation so tread carefully, and only listen to this episode when you’re ready. Johann, it is always a pleasure. This is a big and tricky conversation, and we thank you for having it with us. To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link - 🎧 Things to listen to: Johann Hari - The Importance of Connection - Johann Hari - Why You Can’t Pay Attention - Johann Hari (P1 1) - How Can We Change? - Johann Hari (Pt 2) - Why Do We Do What We Do? - 📖 Things to read: The Magic Pill by Johann Hari - Johann’s other books - 💻Things to look into: Prof. Tracey Mann research into dieting - Bee Wilson’s research into baby food - Dr. Paul Kenny research into the obesity - The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2024-12-01•1hr 26mins
#32

Jim Rogers - A Life Bigger Than Dementia

Today we are introducing you to Jim Rogers, who, in amongst a wild and vibrant life, has been diagnosed with younger-onset dementia. So generous, and such an amazing storyteller, Jim tells us the three acts of his life, so far. The grief of losing his first love, the surprise of his second, and the shock of a dementia diagnosis at 55, this conversation left Hugh, Ryan, and Josh with an invigorated sense for the preciousness of life, love, and family. In Jim’s words, dementia strips you of the most important things: your memory and recognition of your loved ones, as well as your ability to make choices for your own wellbeing. Dementia affects the lives of more than 421,000 individual Australians, and countless family members, loved ones and carers. There is no known cure for dementia, however there are treatments for many of the symptoms. This episode is heart-breaking and heart-warming in the same breath, and we know you’re about to fall in love with Jim, just like we did. Special thanks to Hamish Macdonald, and the Dementia Australia team, who introduced us to Jim. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: 🎧 Things to listen to: Hold The Moment - 📺 Things to watch: Still Alice - 🧠 If you, or someone you know, has been diagnosed with Dementia, here are some great resources as a starting point: Dementia Australia Helpline - 1800 100 500 Dementia Australia - The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2024-11-24•1hr 36mins
#33

Dr Emily - Resent Less, Live More

How long have you been holding on to that grudge? Are you picturing that person or moment right now? Have you ever considered what a step towards forgiveness might look like? These are BIG questions, and thank God, Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, is here to talk us through it all. In today’s episode, Dr Em begins by acknowledging that resentment is a normal human emotion. Phew. However, holding on to resentment for prolonged periods of time can have a serious impact on your physical and emotional wellbeing, as well as your relationships (just ask Hugh and Josh). Then we get onto the F-word. Yep, that’s right. We’re talking about forgiveness. And more specifically, how forgiveness is FOR YOU, and not about excusing behaviour. So get comfy, and enjoy the last of Dr Em for 2024. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - 🎧Things to listen to: Sean Turnell - A Prisoner’s Guide to Life - Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - Dr Emily - Truth v Harmony - 📖 Things to read: Let Go by Hugh van Cuylenburg - 💻 Things to check out: Fred Luskin’s research into Forgiveness - The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2024-11-17•1hr 5mins
#34

Peter Bol - 800m & 3 Free Haircuts

You may know Peter Bol as the 800m runner, who came fourth in the 2021 Tokyo Olympics and second in the 2022 Commonwealth Games. Or, if you’re Hugh, you may have hundreds of photos of Peter training. Wherever you are on the Peter-obsession-meter, we think you’re going to love this episode. Our chat with Peter starts in Sudan, where Peter and his family moved as a unit, through Egypt, before settling in Australia. They were chasing safety and opportunity, two values that continue to ground Peter through all of his sporting success. In 2023, Peter was on the most amazing upward trajectory, he'd just become the WA Young Australian of the year and things were looking good for the Paris 2024 Olympics. Then he was completely derailed with a false-positive drug test. Hugh, Ryan, and Josh talk to Peter about how he remained consciously grateful and resilient throughout the entire saga and was able to instil within himself such fundamental lessons around positivity, justice and mindset. Peter, we (Hugh) will see you on the track soon. To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: 🎧 Things to listen to: How To Write A Gratitude Letter - 📺 Things to watch: Peter Bol’s 2021 Olympic 800m Race - 📱Apps to download BBL - See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2024-11-10•1hr 28mins
#35

Janelle Booker - Living With ADHD

In this long-awaited Academy of Imperfection, we chat to psychologist Janelle Booker, who specialises in ADHD and Highly Sensitive Person trait. There is SO MUCH to learn (and love) about an ADHD brain. We learn how ADHDers are often extremely creative, innovative, and talented, and in the right conditions, absolutely thrive. However, ADHDers may struggle with executive functions such as time keeping, organisation and emotional regulation, which can make daily life really hard and exhausting. People with ADHD can be more susceptible to mental health issues such as depression and anxiety, as well as dopamine boosting activities such as risk-taking behaviour, addiction and disordered eating. This is why seeking the right diagnosis and treatment plan can be really impactful. With school as a battleground, and friendships sometimes hard to maintain, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat through how neurotypical people can be better allies and support systems to ADHDers, as friends, partners, employers, and parents. On a HSP note (not the snack pack, unfortunately), we bet a few of you might resonate with Janelle’s explanation, especially since 15-20% of the population have the Highly Sensitive Person trait. Janelle, it was an absolute pleasure, and we can’t believe we didn’t do this sooner. Janelle is based in Western Australia, and her practice Janelle Booker Psychology, will be accepting new clients in February 2025. Click here to find out more - To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: 💻 ADHD Resources to check out: ADHD Foundation Australia Hotline - Stardust Support - Curtin University ADHD Support Group - For support groups at other universities, contact your counselling or psychology service 🎧 Things to listen to: Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World - Jackson Tozer - Don’t Give Up On Me - Dr. Emily - Truth vs Harmony - 📖 Things to read: Elaine Aron’s work on HSP - Research paper on ADHD genes - 📺 Things to watch: ADHD Meme Account Recommended ...

2024-11-03•1hr 28mins
#36

Ben Shewry - Making It Right (And Delicious)

Chef extraordinaire, creative genius and owner of Attica, Ben Shewry is welcomed back to the studio, this time into the Vulnerabilitea House. In this episode, Ben answers the question, “When was a time you stayed silent, and regretted it?” and talks about his own culpability in racism, and how this event shaped the person that he is today. Hugh and Josh share a moment they wish they could have back, and how they have been moving through the shame to do better next time. In determining what success means to him, Ben talks so graciously about how showing sensitivity and love within relationships leads to deeper connections, and a more enriching life. Ben, we’re IN LOVE with you. To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - 📖 Things to read: Uses for Obsession by Ben Shewry - 🎧 Things to listen to: Ben Shewry (Pt 1) - The Other Side of Excellence - Ben Shewry (Pt 2) - How The Chef Was Made - Rana Hussain - Belonging for Connection - Slip Slidin’ Away by Paul Simon - 🍴Things to check out: Attica - See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2024-10-27•55mins
#37

What's Your ATAR?

It’s tiiimmmmeeee, to get vulnyyyyy (again). And this time, we’re talking about year 12 exams. With the WHOLE TEAM! Whether you’ve hid a possum in your cupboard the night before your English exam, or lost your voice on stage in your drama final, or maybe didn’t even take exams, we’ve been there, and we’re here to tell you, it will be okay. So, get out your papers and pens (do kids still use these?), sit down and enjoy. Love, The Imperfects. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2024-10-24•48mins
#38

Dr Julia Baird - An Awe-full Conversation

As an author, journalist and broadcaster, Dr Julia Baird has spent the last decade researching awe, wonder, grace and forgiveness (...and now the title makes sense!). Finding joy and purpose through ocean swimming, Julia shows us how impactful nature and community can be when we say yes to adventure (and also what to do when caught in a rip). With Josh out sick, Ryan and Hugh do the heavy lifting with bountiful good questions, Ryan becomes enlightened and discovers the meaning behind church (no really, he’s onto something), and Hugh and Ryan get deep with Julia and discuss the role of justice in forgiveness and the place of grace in today’s society. Julia, it was such an honour, and definitely a name ticked off our dream-guest bucket list. To watch the full episode on YouTube click here - 🎧Things to listen to: Not Stupid podcast with Julia Baird and Jeremy Fernandez - Grace Tame - “Sexy-time, Scissoring, Autism” - All that really matters - Teddy Swims - Renegades: Born in the USA with Barack Obama and Bruce Springsteen - 📖 Things to read Julia Baird’s ‘Staying Upright’ ABC column - Phosphorescence by Julia Baird - Bright Shining by Julia Baird - Silent Spring by Rachel Carlson - The Sense of Wonder by Rachel Carlson - The Sound of a Wild Snail Eating by Elisabeth Tova Bailey - AWE by Dacher Keltner - The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga 📺 Things to watch Barack Obama singing Amazing Grace - The Pool documentary - 🌊 Information about Ocean Swimming Groups Phosphorescence Swimming Group (Melbourne) - Margaret River Swimming Group - See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2024-10-20•1hr 14mins
#39

Jack Post-Natal Depression

The birth of a child is completely overwhelming, in every way. What gets you through is your newfound love and connection. Right? But what happens when your heart doesn’t break open with love? What happens when you don’t feel what you’re meant to be feeling? Jack Post is a pillar of Australian radio. Cackling Jack of Hamish and Andy, Side-Kick of the Christian O’Connell Show, Jack has worked hard to always be in the right place at the right time. In this Vulnerabilitea House, Jack is so remarkably honest about his experience with post-natal depression. The shame, the unbearable expectation, the support, and the newfound self-love, Jack shares his journey and the hard work that he has done to get here. This is not an easy conversation, but it is such a very important one. We don’t have favourites, but this episode is an exception. Jack, it was an honour speaking to you. We love you so much. To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - 🎧 Things to listen to: Hamish & Andy Podcast- The Christian O’Connell Breakfast Show - Ryan Shelton - Shame, Jealousy & Purpose - 💻 Things to check out: SYN FM Radio Program - If you, or someone you know, is struggling with post-natal depression, these are a few great resources: PANDA - DadSpace - The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2024-10-13•1hr 4mins
#40

Getting Vulny - Josh’s Big Announcement

We’re gettin’ vullllnnnnyyyyy. Oooohhhhh yeahhhhhh. Yeah, that’s right. We’re trying something new. And, in the coolest way possible, we really hope you like it. Specifically, Josh is gettin’ vulny, and letting us in on a little something he’s been working on (or hoping to work on) (he’s nervous). We’re so proud of you Josh, and we can’t wait to see everyone there x TO BUY TICKETS TO JOSH’S GIG (!!!!!) - follow this link: To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: 🎧 Things to listen to: The Vulnerabilitea House - Josh van Cuylenburg - Vulnerability Update - Josh Wrote a Song! - James Clear - Down The Habit Hole - 📺 Things to watch: we were here - Josh van Cuylenburg Official Video - Nick Cave Australian Story - See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2024-10-10•22mins
#41

Dr Emily - The Certainty of Uncertainty

Do you believe that if you stop worrying, the worst-case scenario will happen? According to Dr Emily, uncertainty, is the only certainty (mic drop) (jaw drop) (the crowd goes silent). If you weren’t having an existential crisis yet, strap yourself in, because today we’re talking worry and uncertainty. In this emisode, our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove talks us through our new-age uncertainty intolerance, and why we continuously seek reassurance and data to drive our decision-making process. We talk big, global-warming size unpredictability, and also small, picking a restaurant without reading reviews uncertainty, to explore the role of worry in our lives. Without further ado, let’s dive into the unknown and find safety in the present moment. You can watch this full episode on YouTube here - 🎧Things to listen to: Myf Warhurst - The Anxiety of Uncertainty - Dr Louise Newson - Maybe It’s Menopause - Sean Turnell - A Prisoner’s Guide to Life - Ann Davidman - Should You Have Children? - Dr Emily - The Risk of Avoiding Risk - Elizabeth Day - The Me-est Version of Me - 📺Things to watch: Brene Brown - The Call to Courage - 💻Things to check out: Mother of Mindfulness (Ellen Langer) - Making the Decision Right - Increasing Intolerance of Uncertainty Over Time - Nicholas Carleton - Rick Hanson - I am all right, right now - The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2024-10-06•55mins
#42

Zoë Foster Blake - Zero Lucks Given

Author, business lady and skincare wizard (according to her customs card), Zoë Foster Blake is nothing short of prolific. Chatting with Hugh, Ryan and Josh in this Vulnerabilitea House, Zoë talks through the pressure and responsibility she felt during her loneliest time. Striking ‘luck’ as a dirty word, Zoë’s compulsion to be productive and produce ‘good work’ has earned her a multitude of publishing awards for her numerous books, the production of one of her novels into a TV show, the stocking of her skincare brand Go-To in Mecca and Sephora, and a cult following. But something’s gotta give when you’re striving to have it all, and Zoë knows better than anyone how relationships, mental and physical health can all suffer when you’re burn-out adjacent. Zoë preaches the importance of sleep, and discusses how she combats anxious thoughts before bedtime, as well as perimenopause (and how you’re probably gaslighting yourself into thinking you aren’t going through it). Zoë, what a joy. To watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link: 📖 Things to read: Things Will Calm Down Soon (Zoë’s BRAND NEW book) - Scaredy Bath by Zoë Foster Blake - No One Likes A Fart by Zoë Foster Blake - Zoë’s entire back catalogue of books - How To Be Idle by Tom Hodgkinson - This Is Marketing by Seth Godin - 💻 Things to Check Out Go-To, Bro-To and Gro-To Skincare - Balance App - 📺Things to Watch The Wrong Girl - Michael Phelps Doorway Technique - Slumdog Millionaire - 🎧Things to listen to Dr Louise Newson - Maybe It’s Menopause - See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2024-09-29•57mins
#43

Dr Billy Garvey - From Boyz II Men

Dr Billy Garvey gets kids. A developmental and behavioural paediatrician with over twenty years experience, Billy is an expert at up-skilling kids with the fundamental skills of empathy, kindness, compassion and self-esteem. Due to the extremely high demand for his expertise (the clinic waiting list is most likely seven years long at this point), Billy decided to co-produce his own podcast ‘Pop-Culture Parenting’, and has also just released a book Ten Things I Wish You Knew About Your Child’s Mental Health. In this Academy, Billy gets into the nitty gritty about masculinity, role modelling and teaching emotional regulation to kids, especially young boys (we even talk about porn). Extremely generous in sharing his own story, Billy reveals the purpose behind his clinic, and how he finds immense privilege in being here to do the work that he does (you’re going to need tissues). Thank you Billy, it is always pleasure.To watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link: 📖Things to read: Ten Things I Wish You Knew About Your Child’s Mental Health by Dr Billy Garvey - 🎧Things to listen to: The Academy of Imperfection - Dr Billy Garvey, Paediatrician - An Imperfect Chat About Men - Another Imperfect Chat About Men - Pop-Culture Parenting - Kendrick Lamar: The Art of Peer Pressure - 💻Things to check out: Social Learning Theory - and This episode references domestic violence. If this feels like too much for you to listen to right now, please skip this one, and come back when you are ready. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2024-09-22•1hr 8mins
#44

Nathan Buckley - Out of The Woods

For Nathan Buckley, self-reflection is critical for becoming the person he wants to be. Placed on a pedestal during his playing career (for good reason), Bucks was Collingwood’s favourite son, and GOD he felt the pressure. Communicating only through criticism, both to himself and his teammates, Bucks says he was "demented" in the way he trained. In this episode, Bucks shares the steps he took to change his entire approach to playing and coaching footy. Importantly, unlearning that playing good footy meant being worthy and how letting go and asking for help completely changed his relationship with himself.Also... The Courage To Be Disliked gets a few mentions, we PROMISE Ryan isn’t sponsored, just obsessed! Bucks, for someone who bleeds black and white, you have the biggest heart, and we love you a lot. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: 📺Things to watch: Beefy’s Motivational Speech at Collingwood - Hugh’s ‘GEM’ Amazon Special - 🎧Things to listen to: Jack Watts - Anxiety, Pressure in Football and Mistakes 📖Things to read: The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga - How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie - How To Fight The Urge to Make Everything About Yourself - The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2024-09-15•1hr 26mins
#45

Dr Emily - Compassion of The Self

Do you feel like you're on your own side? Are you able to speak to yourself with kindness? Or stick up for yourself in front of others? That, my friend, is self-compassion and it can be incredibly hard to do. Dr Em says, "compassion" in Latin translates to “with suffering.” And SELF-compassion is how we relate, reflect and react when our self is suffering. In this episode, Dr Em talks about why cultivating a self-compassionate voice is SO DIFFICULT, but how it's also pivotal in getting us through our darkest moments. And we chat through whether self-compassion needs a re-brand? (Hugh's gunning for self-chop-out, but we're still taking recommendations?) To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: 📖Books Josh hasn’t read (but definitely will at some point) Against Empathy - Paul Bloom - Fierce Compassion - Kristin Neff - 🎧Things to listen to Brooke Blurton - The Path of Most Resilience - Dr Emily - Who Is Your Inner Critic & Why Is It There? - 💻Things to check out Kristin Neff’s online resources - Paul Gilbert’s review on Self-Compassion - Dr Emily is a clinical psychologist and you can find out more about her here - The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2024-09-08•1hr 8mins
#46

Grace Tame - "Sexy-time, Scissoring, Autism"

In this Vulnerabilitea House, Grace addresses her adolescent self with a simple message - “It wasn’t your fault.” Australian of the Year, Next Generation Leader (as voted by Time Magazine), ultra-marathon runner and changer of laws, Grace Tame can't be tamed. Here she discusses the uncomfortable truths of her child sexual abuse, grooming & rape. She shares how survival mode became her new normal while dealing, and continuously recounting, her trauma in the public eye. Talking body, Grace is honest about her struggle with anorexia and the relief (after a whole lot of pain) of a recent endometriosis diagnosis.Ohh and she talks about autism, in the most beautiful unfiltered way! Grace, it was the biggest privilege to have you in the studio. We love you immensely. To see Grace speak live (we implore you to), tickets for her show, Lightening the Load with Grace Tame are available here - To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link: 📖Things to Read The Ninth Life of a Diamond Miner: A Memoir - Betrayed by my body - Michael Salter - 💻Things to check out The Grace Tame Foundation - 📺Things to watch Grace’s Australian of the Year Award Speech - 🦋 If you or someone you know if experiencing an eating disorder, these are some helpful resources to look into: The Butterfly Foundation - Eating Disorders Families Australia - Uncovery - The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. Or visit the below support services. Beyond Blue - Suicide Call Back Service - 1300 659 467 - Reach Out - See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2024-09-01•1hr 25mins
#47

Rana Hussain - Belonging For Connection

Have you ever felt excluded? Or like you don't belong? It turns out that belonging is a fundamental human need. To thrive, we need to feel safe, we need to feel welcome, but very importantly, we need to know the tribe has our back. In this Academy of Imperfection, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to founder of Good Human, Rana Hussain. Rana is a host of The Outer Sanctum podcast, a board member of Reconciliation Australia and consultant to a plethora of elite sporting clubs on bettering their diversity and inclusion strategies.In this episode, she shares how to get curious in a respectful way, why listening is everything and how to live a life true to your identity. Ohh and there's a pretty incredible love story in the ep as well! Rana, it was an absolute joy, and you definitely left us better than you found us. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - 💻Things to check out Good Human - Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs - 🎧Things to listen to The Outer Sanctum - Pallavi Sharda - Where We Belong - Dr Emily - Other People Matter - 📖Things to read Belonging: The Ancient Code of Togetherness by Owen Eastwood - The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2024-08-25•1hr 16mins
#48

Jack Steele - Socials Anxiety

‘The Inspired Unemployed’ began when a couple of tradies, Jack Steele and Matt ‘Falcon’ Ford, began an Instagram to catalogue the skits they were writing and filming overseas. Since then, Jack and Falcon have launched Australia’s fastest selling beer, collaborated with Fendi and Louis Vuitton, have 2 million followers on Instagram, launched a podcast exclusive to Spotify AND star in their own TV show The Inspired Unemployed (Impractical) Jokers. Life, from the outside, seems pretty much perfect. In this Vulnerabilitea House we chat with Jack Steele about his fear of losing relevance. Extremely generous in his vulnerability, Jack opens up about his terrifying panic attacks, anxiety over not being productive; his ADHD diagnosis; and what it’s like to live and work with your best mate, while still trying to be, well, best mates. Jack, we’re in love with you. To watch this full episode on YouTube, click this link: 🎧Things to listen to: Hamish MacDonald- How To Be You - 📖Things to read: ADHD 2.0 - Edward Hallowell - 📱Things to scroll: The Inspired Unemployed on Instagram - 📺Things to watch: The Inspired Unemployed (Impractical) Jokers - Anomalisa - 📋Things to do: Maria’s Resilience First Aid Training - 👨‍🦲Things for hair loss Hugh’s hairspray product - Finasteride (please note this a prescription product and should only be used after a consultation with your GP) - The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2024-08-18•1hr 6mins
#49

Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity

Settle in and grab your notebooks, you’re in for a good one. We’re joined by Maria Ruberto, director and founder of Salutegenics Psychology, who just happens to be Ryan and Josh’s (ex) psychologist. Maria is the co-designer of Resilience First Aid, an internationally recognised two-day certification program, which teaches the neuroscience of resilience (Ryan took sooooo many notes). We discuss with Maria the relationship between biology and behaviour, and the six domains of resilience. Getting technical, we delve into the negatives of screen time (hello darkness our old friend) and the ridiculously positive benefits of doing stuff with other people. So join us as we get started on building our resilience toolbox, practice breathing like a baby AND co-regulate like it’s no one’s business. To sign up to Maria’s Resilience First Aid training, follow this link: To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here: 🎧Things to listen to: Dr Emily - A Guide To Getting Therapy - The Academy of Imperfection - Ben Crowe - Gary Barlow - The Pain Behind The Pleasure - Esther Perel - Let’s Be Better Lovers - 📖 Things to read: Stress Study: Defining Protective Resilience: Resilience First Aid Evaluation: The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2024-08-11•1hr 24mins
#50

Jackson Tozer - Don’t Give Up On Me

Jackson Tozer embodies the essence of The Imperfects podcast. Well, that’s what Ryan thinks, and we’re pretty keen to agree. Hugely successful and outrageously talented, Jackson, from the outside, is living the dream. Behind the professional success of acting alongside Shaun Micallef, John Cena and Zac Efron (and Ryan, can’t forget Ryan), Jackson found himself learning how to be a high-functioning addict (literally high) at rock bottom. Sharing his experience with grief, the loss of his best friend and marijuana addiction, which contributed to his battle with bulimia, anxiety and depression, we thank Jackson for being so bloody generous with his vulnerability.This episode with Jackson Tozer includes a discussion about eating disorders, marijuana addiction and suicide . If this feels like too much for you right now, please come back to this episode when you're ready. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - Join Movember and be part of the solution. To advocate for more action around men's health, head to 🎭Things to check out Jackson’s Fringe Show - Jackson on Instagram - Community Care Collective - 📺Things to watch Ricky Stanicky - Mr Inbetween - 🎧Things to listen to The Killers - Rut - If you or someone you love is suffering from a marijuana addiction, these are some good places to start: Call DirectLine on 1800 888 236 for 24hr support Marijuana Anonymous Australia - Family Drug Support - 🦋 If you or someone you know if experiencing an eating disorder, these are some helpful resources to look into: The Butterfly Foundation - Eating Disorders Families Australia - Uncovery - The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. Or visit the below support services. Beyond Blue - Suicide Call Back Service - 130...

2024-08-04•1hr 13mins

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