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Best Pillow Talks Episodes

ByVanessa & Xander Marin | QCODE
210 episodes

Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!

#1

EPISODE 210: How To Know When Enough Is Enough

This episode tackles a vital question many couples face: when should you put up with issues in your relationship? Vanessa and Xander dive into common challenges and provide insights on recognizing when a relationship may not be serving you. It's a must-listen for anyone looking to evaluate their partnership.

2025-05-29•1h 2m
#2

EPISODE 209: Mental Load: The #1 Desire Killer

Explore the idea that the burden of mental load can impact intimacy in relationships. This episode resonates with many listeners who may feel overwhelmed, making it a relatable and eye-opening discussion about desire and connection.

2025-05-22•59m
#3

EPISODE 208: Stuck In A Relationship Rut? Here’s Your 4-Week Fix

Feeling disconnected? This episode offers a realistic four-week plan to help couples reignite their relationship. Vanessa and Xander provide practical steps that are easy to integrate into busy lives, making it a perfect guide for new listeners looking for actionable advice.

2025-05-15•57m

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#4

EPISODE 207 The Foreplay Episode: The 5 Things We’re All Getting Wrong

Dive into this masterclass on foreplay, one of the most essential yet often overlooked parts of intimacy. With humor and expertise, Vanessa and Xander share insights that can enhance anyone's sexual experience, making it a great entry point for new listeners.

2025-05-08•1h 3m
#5

EPISODE 206: Butt Stuff 101: Everything You’re Too Afraid To Ask

This fan-favorite episode tackles a fun yet often taboo topic—anal play. Vanessa and Xander provide a safe and informative space for listeners to explore their curiosities, making it a perfect blend of humor and education.

2025-05-01•57m
#6

EPISODE 205: Couples Coaching Session: How To Ask For More Even If You Don’t Know What You Want

Join Vanessa and Xander as they guide a real couple through their intimacy issues. This coaching episode provides relatable insights and practical advice, making it a valuable resource for any couple wanting to improve their connection.

2025-04-24•53m
#7

EPISODE 200: 200 Episodes Later: Let’s Get Personal! (Ask Us Anything)

Celebrate the milestone of 200 episodes with Vanessa and Xander as they answer listener questions. This personal and engaging episode offers a behind-the-scenes look at their journey, making it a great starting point for new listeners.

2025-03-20•1h 11m
#8

EPISODE 199: Am I The Asshole? Masturbation, Snooping, and Jealousy

In this episode, Vanessa and Xander tackle spicy relationship dilemmas in their popular 'Am I The Asshole?' series. The engaging discussions make this episode a great choice for new listeners who enjoy relatable and candid conversations.

2025-03-13•57m
#9

EPISODE 198: Stop Doing THIS If You Want More Sex (Initiation Fixes You Need to Know)

This episode provides practical tips for couples struggling with initiating intimacy. With humor and straightforward advice, it's an insightful listen for anyone looking to enhance their sex life.

2025-03-06•51m
#10

EPISODE 197: Ask A Sex Therapist - Resentment, Sexual Frustration, And The Death Grip

Ever wanted to ask a sex therapist your burning questions? This episode is dedicated to listener queries and covers a range of relatable topics, making it both informative and entertaining for new listeners.

2025-02-27•1h 1m